Can you be a world traveler and a homebody at the same time? Not really, but nearby cruise departure ports make it easy to meld these disparate lifestyles in the most delightful way.

Cruise departure ports in the Northeast are percolating with the world’s most alluring ships, setting off to epic Caribbean jaunts, transatlantic voyages and long weekends of exploration.

And finding their floating doorsteps couldn’t be easier. Skip the pricey, time-consuming plane travel and simply drive to the cruise terminal. Forgo the stress of counting and weighing suitcases, too, because ships don’t impose luggage fees. Then, walk up the gangway, unpack once and let the parade of interesting places unfold. The boat becomes your mobile lair, a familiar touchstone while you delight in a few new experiences.

Plan your next cruise with a AAA travel advisor.

Northeast Cruise Departure Ports

Our area boasts four cruise departure ports – one in Boston, one in Bayonne, N.J., (Cape Liberty) and two in New York City (Manhattan and Brooklyn).

New York’s Manhattan terminal stands out as the busiest, serving more than a million passengers annually. Not surprisingly, the iconic sail-away from Manhattan ranks as a rite-of-passage for travelers and never fails to unwind like a cinematographer’s dream. Ships glide down the Hudson River alongside a humming city stacked with skyscrapers, passing Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty before ducking under the Verrazzano Bridge and hitting the open ocean.

Manhattan, Brooklyn and Cape Liberty host cruise ships year-round, while Boston has seasonal appeal from April through November. Popular round-trip itineraries head north along the sea-bitten coastlines of Canada and New England, south to the sun-kissed Caribbean or Bermuda, and east toward Europe’s countless treasures.

Homeport cruises make impromptu escapes effortless. Plus, flexible travelers can scout last-minute deals. Neophytes get the opportunity to test their sea legs without making a major investment, while avid cruisers can parlay savings into a longer itinerary or even an extra voyage.

Since all major lines sail from Northeast cruise departure ports, it’s also worth noting homeport cruises present the perfect opportunity to sample different seafaring styles, especially upscale options that might be within reach considering the resources spared getting to the ship.

Onboard Amenities Abound

No doubt homeport cruising ups the ante on an already value-packed vacation that includes transportation, lodging, dining and onboard entertainment. And when it comes to the latter, don’t be afraid to think big and then go even bigger. Boats bobbing in our drive-to ports tout everything from the seafaring outposts of America’s Test Kitchen on Holland America Line to sky-diving simulators and the Guinness World Record-making “Highest Viewing Deck on a Cruise Ship” (both on Royal Caribbean’s Anthem of the Seas).

Savor creations from celebrity chefs like “real deal” burgers on Carnival, where Food Network star Guy Fieri has crafted menus for Guy’s Burger Joint. For a tech-savvy culinary extravaganza, complete with a tiny animated chef that will treat your plate like an artist’s palette, Celebrity Summit’s Qsine restaurant beckons. Plus, Anthem enlists bionic bartenders to mix the perfect nightcap.

Ships that Sail From Boston

Departures from Boston include Norwegian, Celebrity and Royal Caribbean ships, mostly sailing to Canada, New England and the blushing beaches of Bermuda.

Holland America maintains a strong Beantown presence as well; supplementing the expected itineraries, Zuiderdam proposes a 35-day round-trip to Iceland, Greenland and Scandinavia.

New Jersey Cruises

Cape Liberty homeports ships from Celebrity and Royal Caribbean, namely Celebrity Summit and Royal Caribbean’s Anthem of the Seas and Oasis of the Seas, cruising to Canada, Bermuda, Bahamas and Royal’s Perfect Day at CocoCay private island.

Big Apple Departures

NCL gets credit for initiating the Big Apple homeport trend with the year-round deployment of its then-new ship, Norwegian Dawn, to Manhattan in 2003. Now, several NCL ships spend time homeporting in the city, like the Norwegian Prima, Gem and Getaway. That’s quite a commitment, and it pays off with diverse itineraries.

For island-lovers, NCL’s Caribbean voyages can’t be beat. The 10 to 14-day itineraries string together a chain of sublime tropical outposts, from lush Saint Lucia to arid Aruba. Enjoy swimming with velvety stingrays atop a sandbar in Grand Cayman or roaming Old San Juan’s cobbled lanes in Puerto Rico.

Oceania’s Insignia delivers an upscale taste of Bermuda via a smaller ship. The week-long itinerary splits time between the capital of Hamilton and quaint St. George, two ports bigger ships can’t squeeze into. Aside from pink-sand beaches, you’ll find Bermuda contains more green golf courses per capita than anywhere else in the world.

Although it’s been open for close to two decades, Brooklyn ranks as the newest cruise departure port in our area. Princess and Cunard ships often begin their journeys here. MSC Cruises also offers year-round cruises from the Red Hook terminal.

Just thinking about the possibilities makes us root, root, root for the homeports!

Plan and book your next cruise vacation with AAA. 

Featured photo: The Norwegian Prima sailing from New York City.

This article has been updated and republished from a previous version.

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IN THIS EPISODE

For many of us, retirement is a bit of an abstract idea. It seems so far away that it can be hard to picture. It’s also easy to feel like we have more time to plan than we do, so it often gets put on the back burner. This is one of the most common retirement planning mistakes.

No one knows how long they’ll get to enjoy their retirement or if they’ll ever find themselves in circumstances that make it easier – or more difficult – to save for the future. With so many unknowns, figuring out how to save for retirement can be a challenge.

Step 1: Just start. The earlier the better, too, because you’re never going to get any younger. Your future self will thank you when you have the money to make your non-working years more fun.

Join us for this retirement 101 episode as we talk to Pamela Capalad, a certified financial planner and accredited financial counselor, about different types of retirement plans and how to take control of your personal finances. This is a must-listen retirement savings guide for young adults wondering, “How can I save for retirement in my 20s?” Pamela discusses some of the best retirement accounts for beginners, explains the difference between a 401(k) and an IRA and walks through the process of opening a Roth IRA for the first time.

What is the FIRE movement? Julien and Kiersten Saunders are also here to explain how you can achieve Financial Independence and Retire Early. With the right retirement planning it is possible!

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

[3:31] – Where to begin with retirement planning.
[7:57] – The 411 on 401(k)s with and without employer contributions.
[12:19] – The basic principles of the FIRE Movement.
[14:14] – The FIRE movement vs. basic retirement planning.

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TRANSCRIPT

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Amanda Greene: When I was little, I didn’t think much about my golden years, but anytime I would picture my future, I’d be in a cafe in Paris.

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Parisian Server: Bonjour, madame.

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Amanda Greene: Sipping an espresso outside in one of those side street cafes.

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Parisian Server: What cafe, madame?

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Amanda Greene: But now, so many years later, that’s a lot harder to picture. I’m not retiring anytime soon, but thinking about how much I’m going to have to save in order to relax in Europe in my sixties? Yikes. I might have a lot of work to do. How do I even get on track? Welcome to Merging into Life where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time. Brought to you by AAA Northeast, I’m your host, Amanda Greene. Today we’re going to talk about retirement. It’s probably closer than I think. It’s definitely closer than it feels. So, let’s dive in. We aren’t going to give you financial advice, but we will define some terms and figure out how to get started, and then, how to keep going. Today we have Julien and Kiersten Saunders, experts in creating financial freedom. That’s a big goal. So, let’s start with the basics with Pamela Capalad.

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Pamela Capalad: In college, I did a summer camp for kids called The Money Camp, and I was teaching kids financial literacy. I was teaching 10-year-olds and 11-year-olds about budgeting and the stock market and retirement and credit cards and all of these things that I never got as a kid. I was like, “You know what? I think every kid in America needs this.” So that’s how I ended up in the financial industry.

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Amanda Greene: Pamela, money can be so hard to talk about. I’m glad you’re here to make this easier. Tell me about yourself.

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Pamela Capalad: So, I’m the co-founder of Get Shameless Inc. with my husband, Dyalekt. I’m a certified financial planner and accredited financial counselor, and yes, I agree. Money is so hard to talk about, and that’s kind of why I do this.

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Amanda Greene: I’ve seen how you break this down, and I really like how you simplify how all of this works.

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Pamela Capalad: One of the big things that I learned, the financial industry in particular, wealth management in general, was the jargon is so jargony that if you ever feel bad that you don’t understand hearing something the first time, don’t. I literally remember subscribing to the Wall Street Journal, and I was like, “I’m going to read it every day, and I’m going to learn everything I need to learn.” Literally, a month later, I was like, “I have no idea what anyone has said in any of these articles.”

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Amanda Greene: Yes.

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Pamela Capalad: It took me a year to understand how retirement accounts worked, and I was working in the field. And, so, as we go through this today, and we talk about all these acronyms and all these rules and all these penalties and things like that, just please, I want to implore you to get shameless about what you don’t know.

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Amanda Greene: I love that, get shameless about it, because I think there is some shame attached to sometimes what you don’t know and also maybe your relationship with money, but there is a lot to understand that I don’t personally feel very confident about. What do you say to people? How do they get past that insecurity of not really knowing?

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Pamela Capalad: So, I think the very first thing is to figure out how to put yourself in a comfortable place, whether that is having a meal with someone, whether that is putting on your favorite TV show, whether that is pouring glass of wine while you look at your 401(k). You don’t have to be in work mode while you’re thinking about your money. You don’t have to muscle through it or put the pressure on yourself to say, “I’m going to learn all of this in a day.”

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Amanda Greene: So, when it comes to retirement planning, something that we all have to think about at some point, where do we even begin?

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Pamela Capalad: Yeah, one of the things that I have started ruminating on is that goals don’t always lead to habits, but habits always lead to goals. I think that when we try to start with a huge goal and think about it in the beginning, sometimes the number feels so big that we give up already. You need a million dollars in retirement, you should have three times your salary by the time you’re 30 in your retirement account, and people hear that, and they’re like, “Wait, but I don’t have anything in my retirement account. OK, forget it.” And, so, instead of trying to think about how much money you should have at a certain point, just start doing it. You’re just saying, “Oh yeah, that’s just what I do.” And, so, when you start to build that habit, then the goals that are tailored to you, because you have been the one thinking about them, will actually start to come naturally. I recommend starting with just doing it.

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Amanda Greene: They say that about anything. You want to start a new exercise routine, you want to eat healthier, you want to do anything? Just start.

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Pamela Capalad: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. The goals will come. So it’s never too early, and it’s never too late either. The earlier the better, yes, technically with the numbers of course, but a lot of us, especially when we’re younger, one, don’t necessarily have access to a 401(k), you’ve never heard of an IRA, you’re not thinking about it yet. And, so, the first thing is to make sure that you feel comfortable today, and that means having money in a savings account. So, whatever that savings amount is for you to be comfortable to say, “OK, and now I can start putting money aside towards retirement.” The next thing is if you work at a job, and that offers a 401(k), we call them retirement accounts, and my hands in air quotes, but we call them retirement accounts because of the way that they are taxed and the rules around them. So, really, in the industry, the jargon is also tax advantaged accounts, tax deferred accounts, and all of that stuff also means retirement accounts when you hear this.

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Amanda Greene: So, a retirement account, a tax deferred account, means that we are investing, stop me if I’m using wrong words.

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Pamela Capalad: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: We’re investing money pre-taxed or untaxed into an account, and then, once we are of retirement age and we want to begin using the money, then it is taxed?

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Pamela Capalad: Yes, exactly. You got it. That’s how traditional retirement accounts work. And I’m saying traditional because traditional 401(k)s, traditional IRAs, SEP IRAs, and IRA stands for individual retirement arrangement. All of those accounts, the benefit of putting the money in there is you’re not paying taxes now. So, if you make $50,000 a year, and you put $ 5,000 into your 401(k), you’re only taxed on $45,000 of money and not $50,000, so you save money on taxes upfront.

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Amanda Greene: OK.

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Pamela Capalad: Then, what happens is it grows and grows and grows and grows, and then, when you’re in retirement, the assumption is that that’s going to be your income for retirement, and you take the money out, and you’re taxed on that. So, let’s say you take $10,000 out of your 401(k) at age 65, you get taxed on $10,000, not the whole account. Yeah. So, the taxation part, the tax benefits part is really the biggest benefit of a retirement account or a tax advantaged account like a 401(k).

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Amanda Greene: I feel like I hear people talk about an IRA and a Roth IRA, and are they the same thing? Are they different things? What’s the difference?

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Pamela Capalad: Roth IRAs, traditional IRAs, SEP IRAs, simple IRAs, there’s so many kinds of IRAs.

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Amanda Greene: There’s more.

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Pamela Capalad: Yeah, I want to stick with traditional vs. Roth because it’s all about how it’s taxed. So, let’s pretend that you are an apple farmer, and you get these apple seeds to plant a big apple orchard. You get these seeds, and you’re so excited, and the tax person comes knocking at your door, and they’re like, “Hey, I hear you’re about to plant some apples. We need to collect taxes, but I’m going to be nice. I’m going to give you an option. You can either pay taxes on the seeds now, or I’m not going to collect taxes on the seeds, but when you got that big apple orchard, I’m going to collect taxes on the apples.” And, so, what do you choose? It depends. So, if you have the money to pay taxes on the seeds now, you’re like, “Here you go, fine.” And then when you pay taxes on the seeds now, you get to keep all of the apples, and you don’t owe any taxes on them. That’s a Roth IRA. A Roth IRA is you pay taxes on the money you put in now, on the seeds now, and then you get to enjoy your apples tax-free.

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Amanda Greene: OK, that makes sense. So, then a 401(k) is paying taxes on the apples after they’ve grown and are ready to harvest. I like that. So, when it comes to retirement planning, and we want to begin with looking in to see if our workplace has a 401(k), how does it work with an employer matching contributions?

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Pamela Capalad: The matching is huge. So matching is basically free money. What that means is that if you work for an employer, and they say, “We match up to 3%.” That means if you put up to 3% into your 401(k), then they will put another 3% in there on your behalf. And a lot of times a lot of companies have what’s called vesting, so you have to stay in the company for at least a certain period of time to receive the money. You can’t just take your 3%, quit next month, and leave, but usually the vesting is between one to three years. And so as long as you stay in a company for a certain period of time and you leave, then that money is yours.

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Amanda Greene: OK.

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Pamela Capalad: And, so, that is the very first step is really to say, what’s my 401(k) plan? What is the matching? And, if you can, put up to the match amount.

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Amanda Greene: So how about if your workplace does not match your 401(k)?

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Pamela Capalad: So, if your employer doesn’t match, you should still contribute to your 401(k). And in general, start with a small percentage, start with a percentage that you feel like is manageable because you can change how much you contribute at any time. If you start with a small percentage and you’re like, “Oh, that was nothing. I didn’t even feel that. Let me increase my percentage.” Then you can go in and do that so you’re not stuck with the amount that you chose at the beginning.

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Amanda Greene: What are the things to be aware of when putting money away for retirement?

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Pamela Capalad: Oh, yeah. There is a lot of rules with these retirement accounts, but all of these accounts have specific tax advantages, which means they have specific rules around them. The biggest one is that you have to leave the money in the account until you’re age 59 1/2, or you have to, if you take the money out before that, you have to pay the taxes that you owe on that money and a 10% penalty on top of that. So, if you’re trying to take $10,000 out of your retirement account, you might only be left with 5 after taxes and penalties, so that’s a huge thing to consider as you put money away is the intention is for that money to not be touched until you’re 60 or older essentially.

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Amanda Greene: It does seem like there are a lot of rules with whatever direction you’re going in, and you need to understand the rules.

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Pamela Capalad: Yeah, that’s a big one. And then the other one is that there are contribution limits on how much you can put into a retirement account every single year, and every year it goes up, and when you’re over a certain age, you can put catch up contributions, what they’re called. If you go over that amount, then you might have to pay a penalty as well if you go over the contribution limit.

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Amanda Greene: So, once you put that money into your retirement savings, it’s pretty much in there for the long haul. I like all this info about starting and making habits. We’re going to get back to Pamela later, but right now I’d like to bring in Kiersten and Julien Saunders.

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Kiersten Saunders: We run a financial platform called Rich and Regular, and we are basically documenting our journey to financial independence. We started getting really interested in the personal finance movement about 10 or 12 years ago and started writing about it in 2017, and that blog has evolved into a podcast, a YouTube channel, a video series, a book called “Cashing Out: Win the Wealth Game by Walking Away.” And, so, we’re just two people who live in Atlanta and love to talk about money when we’re not chasing our s7 1/2-year-old son around.

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Amanda Greene: Now, this is something I have been hearing about, the FIRE movement. Can you explain that to me?

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Kiersten Saunders: Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. FIRE is an acronym for a financial independence, retire early, and there’s a lot of dialogue around which one is more important, the financial independence or the early retirement part. There are people who identify with one half of the acronym more than the other half, people who want to be financially independent but love their jobs and don’t plan on retiring. It doesn’t really matter what flavor you choose, it’s just getting to a point where money is not the deciding factor for the big decisions in your life. There are so many of us that are guided by whether or not we need the money when we’re making decisions about whether to spend more time with our parents or our spouse or our children or just doing the things that we love. And the point of this movement is to try to unlock you from some of those things.

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Amanda Greene: If someone wants to jump on board and really take charge of their finances and be part of the FIRE movement, what are the basic principles to this?

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Julien Saunders: So, I think unless you are a complete novice to personal finance, you’ve likely heard a standard rule that you should save 10 to 15% of your income and stash that money aside, whether you’re saving it or investing it in preparation for retirement. Now, if that’s the case, then we should be asking ourselves, “Well, what would happen if we saved 20% or 30% or 40%?” You may get really crafty and decide that you are going to live dramatically under your means so that you can maximize what you’re saving and or investing. And what happens is if you keep that up over a while, and you find a really good healthy balance between living well-below your means while still enjoying and maintaining a good quality of life, and you are now saving and investing that money, what starts to happen over time due to compounding interest is that your money starts to out-earn you. So, if you’re making $50,000 a year, the moment your money starts to earn more than $50,000 in interest, at that point you become a version of financially independent, and you just have so many more options available to you.

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Amanda Greene: And living below your means for many people would mean rethinking your lifestyle.

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Julien Saunders: Yeah.

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Kiersten Saunders: That’s the hard part. That is what prevents a lot of people from even doing the research on the different flavors of FI, which is short for financial independence. It’s the idea of needing to let go of an identity or a lifestyle that you’ve taken a lot of pride in, and you really have to want freedom more than you want those other things. And that takes a while. That’s a process when you live surrounded by consumerism and in the kind of capitalism that we have. But once you do it, it becomes like second nature, and you don’t even think twice about some of the decisions that you may see your friends and family in some cases making.

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Amanda Greene: It sounds like you almost need to get uncomfy for a little while with all of the feelings. Then work through those before you can be comfortable and get to the FI part of this.

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Julien Saunders: Yeah, it sounds very eye-roll inducing or sounds very arrogant in some ways to say the money solves all your problems, but I can tell you from firsthand experience, but also from having thousands of conversations with people around the world about money, we’ve met people who have five times more money than we do, and they’re still working, because they’re not really sure what the future will bring. We’ve met people who have half of the money that we have, and they are living their best life comfortable and having fun and doing all of the things that are most important to them. And, so, we can talk about the numbers. That magical number more often than not is right around 25 times whatever you spend on an annual basis. So, if you spend X amount of dollars on the annual basis, the moment you have 25 times that, and that is invested for you, whether it’s in real estate or property, and maybe if you are super creative and entrepreneurial, you’ve got some type of cash-producing asset or a number of cash-producing assets, you stitch those two together. Once all of that money is kind of churning and working on your behalf, you all of a sudden don’t really have to work because you can safely withdraw around 4% of that on an annual basis and your money will continue to earn interest on your behalf.

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Amanda Greene: I’ve never considered approaching money that way.

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Julien Saunders: I mean, I just want people to recognize that it’s an option, that it is a way of life and a path that they can subscribe to as opposed to saving 10 to 15% over a longer period of time. And then what unfortunately happens is we meet that middle road, that middle of your life and that middle of your career when life starts to really happen and you get this combination of illness or children, maybe it’s multiple children, maybe it’s a layoff, and all of those things combined completely derail your plan because you were banking on being able to safely save 10 to 15%. You were banking on earning just as much income for the foreseeable future. And those little hiccups tend to completely derail people’s plans. And, so, we’re just asking them to think about it like you don’t always have to live in a state of fear, find a comfortable kind of nook financially. And the more you do that over time and you continue to invest that money when something happens in your life, you can absorb it, and it does not derail you or throw off your marriage or your ability to be the kind of parent you want to be, or even just give you the freedom to just explore a hobby that you have not been able to explore for the last 10, 15 years. And I think that’s what most people are looking for.

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Amanda Greene: That’s an interesting way to look at it. One of our most popular episodes this season was about budgeting. If anyone wants to go back, there’s some great information in that one, and it really helps to wrap your head around a lot of what we’re talking about today. I can’t help but think that having more money makes it easier to save more money. So really, who is the FIRE movement for?

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Kiersten Saunders: We’ve gotten that question before. It’s for anybody who wants to have a level of agency and control over the decisions that guide their lives, and that could be in a small way or in a big way. We wanted the ability to decide not to have to go into an office Monday through Friday for the years of our son’s life that really matter. Now, that might mean that we go back when he’s 25. It might mean that we never go back, but we wanted the option to be able to take this time and focus on what’s important to us. And I think for everybody, it’s really about answering the question of who you are and what you want, and then you can back into a financial plan that supports that.

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Amanda Greene: So FIRE, financial independence, retire early. I really do like the sound of that. Let’s bring Pamela back for some final thoughts. I’m curious, is it ever too late to start preparing for retirement?

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Pamela Capalad: It is absolutely never too late to start. I have worked with clients in their twenties. I’ve worked with clients in their sixties, and I think that the thing to keep in mind is that people are going to make you feel like you’re behind always when it comes to money, always when it comes to what you have in the bank. The thing to remember is you do have agency, and you do have choice in this process, no matter what age you are, no matter how old you are. And if you’re 60, and you’re looking at retirement, you’re like, “Oh my gosh, how am I going to do this?” Start with the habits, start with the one step at a time. You still start there because once you take that first step and then you take the 100th step and then you take the 500th step, it all starts to feel more clear.

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Amanda Greene: That’s true. You just have to start taking the steps. Pamela, we like to end each episode with a little quiz. Are you ready?

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Pamela Capalad: I think so. Let’s do it.

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Amanda Greene: What’s the No. 1 mistake you see people make when it comes to retirement?

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Pamela Capalad: Not looking. They don’t know how to log in. They don’t look at their statements. They just don’t know what’s going on.

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Amanda Greene: What’s the best way to bring young people or our children into this?

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Pamela Capalad: I love this question because I have a 4-year-old, and I think the best way to bring a young person into this is to have money conversations in front of them. You don’t even have to be speaking directly to them, but money conversations don’t have to happen behind closed doors. You can have difficult conversations in front of your kid. You can feel stressed about money and have them watch how you handle it and how you process it, so money doesn’t feel like such a shock to their system when they’re in their teens or when they’re in college and things like that. That’s what we’re doing for our kid, whether or not we’re even explaining everything, just him knowing that there is no taboo around this topic is huge.

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Amanda Greene: Yes, I love that advice. And Pamela, what’s your No. 1 wish for retirement?

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Pamela Capalad: My No. 1 wish for retirement is that my son doesn’t have to help me in retirement.

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Amanda Greene: Amazing. Thank you so much for coming on today. You have given us a lot to think about and explained things in a way that made it really digestible, and I really appreciate that.

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Pamela Capalad: Oh, thank you so much for having me.

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Amanda Greene: And thanks again to Kiersten and Julien Saunders of Rich and Regular. I guess the thing to remember is you’ve got options. Start somewhere, because it’s never too late, and then, really work at it. Pay attention to your money and see what you’re comfortable putting away. It might be more than you think. Today’s guests aren’t giving financial advice, but they are giving us a lot to think about. The cafe in Paris might have to wait for now, but maybe someday I can enjoy an espresso from the comfort of my own home. So that’s a start. And, yesterday, I upped the amount that I contribute to my 401(k). I’m nowhere near 40% of my income, but I started the habit, which is half the battle, right?

You’ve been listening to Merging into Life where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time. Brought to you by AAA Northeast with assistance from JAR Audio. I’m your host, Amanda Greene.

If you’ve got a second, and you like what you hear, please leave a review. It helps other people find the show. If you’ve learned something that stuck with you, or if you want to suggest a topic, get in touch at podcast@AAANortheast.com.

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IN THIS EPISODE

Once you’ve left the nest and tasted independence, you don’t want to look back, just keep flying forward. That’s why moving back home with parents is not an easy decision for many young adults taking that leap, some even with their own families in tow.

Life happens, and when the door is open with love and support, moving back home isn’t the worst thing you could do. It’s not moving backward; it’s simply a stop on the way to getting to where you want to be.

There are advantages to living with parents as an adult — namely saving money — but, of course, there are also challenges.

In this episode, we talk to Paige Mariah, a successful, vibrant, thirtysomething who returned to the U.S. from England and moved back in with her parents. She’s got firsthand tips on how to make the most of your time at home. We also have Francesca Canzoneri from The Therapy Institute who helps get you in the right mindset when it comes to boundaries.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

[3:14] – Paige Mariah breaks down what’s it like to live at home in your 30s.
[5:59] – How to manage negative emotions when moving back home.
[8:08] – How to avoid falling back into a younger child-parent relationship.
[12:07] – The benefits of moving back home.

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TRANSCRIPT

[00:00:01]
Amanda Greene: When I left home, it was to go to college. I was just ready to be independent. But then finding apartments, paying rent, buying household essentials, it was hard. But knowing my mom was there if I really needed her was huge. The safety net of knowing I could move back home if I had to was really comforting at the time. Life is expensive and the job market can be tough. Moving back home crossed my mind many times. I didn’t ever end up doing it, but lots of people are finding they have to or even want to. Welcome to Merging Into Life where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time. Brought to you by AAA Northeast. I’m your host, Amanda Greene. Today we’re going to talk about moving back in with your parents, the homey perks, the discomforts of home, and everything in between, and why that experience is a little more common than you might think. Take Paige Mariah, for example.

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Paige Mariah: We’re going to be talking about me moving back home with my parents.

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Amanda Greene: She was living her best life abroad in London, but after five years she decided to move back home with her parents in the U. S at 31. And trust me, as she says, it wasn’t as simple as just moving back in.

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Paige Mariah: Man, life has changed a lot over the last year.

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Amanda Greene: Paige had gone to London to pursue a master’s degree, and the city stole her heart. After she finished school, she stayed.

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Paige Mariah: So I was able to get an entrepreneurial visa and that allowed me to stay a lot longer than planned. I was a full-time digital content creator. So I was vlogging my experiences abroad. I was the American in London on YouTube, and it was fun for a really long time, and I was able to visit 40 countries while I was out there.

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Amanda Greene: Sounds like a dream, right? Traveling, living abroad, building a career, but eventually the call of home grew stronger.

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Paige Mariah: Honestly, I am very, very close to my parents and my younger brother, and my family’s in the U. S and my parents are getting older. I just felt like it was time to return back.

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Amanda Greene: Leaving London wasn’t an easy decision, especially since her next stop was moving back in with her parents. It was an emotional roller coaster.

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Paige Mariah: Oh my goodness, I had such a range of emotions. I cried so much that last year that I was there. Not a lot of people that I knew around me were doing that at 31. So yeah, I had a lot of weird feelings around it. I didn’t really know how much I wanted to talk about it online. But then I also decided that this is a super relatable subject that people don’t talk about enough and maybe it won’t be so taboo if I do speak about it.

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Amanda Greene: Yeah, the idea of taboo really hits home.

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Paige Mariah: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: I think so many people struggle with the idea of moving back in with parents in adulthood. It can feel like a step backwards. But when you really stop to think about it, isn’t it a reflection of the realities of adulthood? I love how Paige acknowledges that. Now Paige is home. So what’s it really like to live with your parents when you’re in your thirties?

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Paige Mariah: Oh my gosh, they were overjoyed. They were so excited for me to come back. No, it’s so funny. My dad was so upset at me whenever I would even bring up moving out when I was there. He was like, “No, you should just stay a few years. There’s no need to rush.” They really have enjoyed me being in the house with them again. I hadn’t been that close to them in years. I would see them once or twice a year, so they were really, really excited to just have us all be together in one house again. So at the end of the day, this is my parents’ house. They have a certain way of doing things. They have a certain way of how they like things to be done. My mom doesn’t like anything to be left on her kitchen counter. If I do that, it’s like she’s fussing at me and I’m like, “Ugh.” I would say it was a bit challenging, especially moving in in my thirties because I feel like after I hit my 30th birthday, I just had this shift in me where I just really was craving my own space. I think I just had to keep reminding myself I had a goal and this time I knew that this is going to give me the opportunity to save, save, save and I’m going to set myself up to live alone and accomplish that dream that I’ve had for a while to just wake up to complete silence.

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Amanda Greene: Moving back in with her parents, Paige had a clear goal, find a new job, then save up to find a place of her own. Her determination to do what needed to be done is admirable, and for many people, relatable.

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Francesca Canzoneri: During the Great Depression, 48% of adults moved back in with their parents, so it’s about the same as it was then.

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Amanda Greene: This is Francesca Canzoneri, a licensed associate counselor who specializes in family dynamics. Francesca is here to help us understand how to best navigate our feelings when moving back home. She says there are a lot of reasons we have to do this, but the most common…

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Francesca Canzoneri: I’d say financial is probably the biggest reason.

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Amanda Greene: I can see how deciding to go back home as an adult could come with a range of emotions. What are you seeing?

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yeah. The emotions can be extremely mixed because obviously if we’re moving back home with our parents, we are a little bit comfortable there, especially if that’s the house that we grew up in. So part of us can be feeling nostalgic, maybe we’re feeling a little relieved knowing that financial burden is not as heavy as if we were on our own, but then there’s also an influx of some negative emotions. So we might be anxious, we might feel shame or grief or guilt. We might feel like we’re lacking independence, frustrated. I mean, there’s so many different emotions and they’re kind of all intertwined, so it’s really difficult to navigate them all at the same time.

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Amanda Greene: What should we tell ourselves when that happens?

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Francesca Canzoneri: I always encourage my clients to, first and foremost, just mindfulness. Take deep breaths, let’s stay in the present moment because we have the tendency to kind of worry a lot about the past, worry about the future, maybe we compare ourselves to other people and we kind of get down why am I not where I want to be? And it’s so hard, especially with social media, so you might see where your friends are maybe getting married or advancing in their career or buying a house or whatever it is, and you think about where you are and you compare and it’s natural, especially since it’s so easy to see where other people are. I always encourage my clients to tell themselves or remind themselves that this is an important part of their chapter, so this is what’s going to help them get back to where they want to be. It’s essential. If they don’t have this chapter, then it’s going to be really difficult for them to get where they want to be. So as much as this can be a conflicting chapter, it could be causing an influx of contradicting emotions, it’s imperative and it’s really actually going to set them up for success for where they want to go.

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Amanda Greene: That is a really great line to remind yourself of, that this is an important part of my chapter, this is an important part of my life, this chapter is necessary. I mean, I feel like even no matter what you’re going through in life, that is a good thing to remind yourself of because you’re not going to get where you want to go until you get through this current thing.

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Francesca Canzoneri: I tell them all the time, the best way out of a difficult situation is through because if we swoop it under the rug and pretend it’s not there, it’s still there. And if we just try to avoid it and go over it, it’s still there. So there’s different ways to deal with uncomfortable emotions. Stuffing is when you feel something you don’t want to feel and shoving it down and pretending it’s not there. And it’s a temporary fix because we’re ignoring it, we don’t feel it, we stuff it down, but the problem with that is eventually that builds up.

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Amanda Greene: My mom actually has a shirt that says, “Feel your feelings,” And when she wears it, she points it out to everyone. She’s like, “Feel your feelings.” I bet when people do end up going home, it would be easy to revert into some childish ways.

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: Maybe feel more like your child-like self just from being maybe back in the home you grew up in. How do we try to not do that?

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Francesca Canzoneri: That’s a really good question, and I think this really goes both ways. Just as you don’t want to be treated like a child and have that feeling of you’re a child again in that house, we have to also respect our parents in a way that that’s their house and they’re not just our parents. So it’s kind of like establishing this adult to adult relationship. I think the toughest part of when adults move back in with their parents is that line is blurred, right? We are so used to having the power differential of the parents and then the child. When we move back in as an adult, we need to establish how are we going to change this dynamic? Because yes, it is your house and I am your child, but we are all adults living under the same roof now. So we want to respect that that’s our parents’ house, it’s not our house, and to try to stray away from going back into our childhood ways. I mean, there’s a few different things we could do. If it’s possible, ask our parents, can we change our childhood room around? Can we make it more adult-like? Can we get new furniture, new decor, paint it, whatever, just so it doesn’t look so much like a childhood bedroom? We could take on more responsibility in the household. Don’t expect mom and dad or whoever you’re living with as a family member to do it all. Take on some of that responsibility. Food shop, clean the house, wash the cars, run the errands. That will kind of create less of a power differential and kind of make it more equal and neutralized.

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Amanda Greene: I think something that a lot of people struggle with are boundaries.

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: And this is an instance where they’re really going to come into play. So how do we set boundaries with our family? What are some of the best practices in this circumstance?

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Francesca Canzoneri: Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. They are something we always strive for and they’re really hard. And I think the reason that they can be hard is especially for people who fear tension and don’t want to cause any rifts or any issues in the relationship or damage the relationship and try to keep a more peaceful environment, which works to an extent. If you’re continuously worrying about the other person and how they feel. It’s peaceful, but then eventually you’re kind of swallowing a lot, so that’s why boundaries are important. So I think first and foremost, just understanding ‘What are my boundaries?’

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Amanda Greene: I think a lot of us are still learning even how to assert boundaries and what they even are and what they should mean in your relationships. So that I think would be a really tricky one. Is there a way to make sure that you don’t overstay your welcome?

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Francesca Canzoneri: I typically always go back to communication. I think it’s really important to check in, how are we feeling? Is there anything you need me to do more of or less of? Are we comfortable? Are there any changes that either of us can make to make this more comfortable?

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Amanda Greene: You kind of touched on the independence of someone who had previously moved out and is now moving back in, and as adults, most of us are used to our independence. What happens if we want to stay out late but our family is worried when they know we’re not in our bed? What do we do there?

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Francesca Canzoneri: That’s a tricky one. I think the first thing to keep in mind is your family is your family, so it doesn’t matter how old you are, they’re always going to worry about you. And now if you are living in their environment, they feel a little bit more responsible for you to check in, make sure you’re okay. So accepting that and understanding it’s coming from a good place I think is a really important piece. And then also, going back to that assertive communication and those boundaries, where can we come to a compromise? I appreciate that you care about me, I appreciate that you want me to be safe, I appreciate that you want to make sure I’m okay, I appreciate that you care. And at the same time, it makes me feel anxious when you worry too much or call me throughout the night or whatever it is. So just being honest with how you’re feeling and coming to a compromise of, okay, if I tell you I’m going out with my friends, I will be home by this time. If I’m a little bit late, I’ll reach out.

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Amanda Greene: We’ve touched on a lot of the uncomfy parts of this and how to work through it, but what are some of the benefits of living with your parents?

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yeah, absolutely. I think just being reminded that you have such good support because I think sometimes we could take that for granted sometimes. Not everybody always has that so showing that gratitude and having that comfort so easily accessible by moving back in is nice. Just knowing that you could take so much pressure off of yourself, that you have to figure it out right now, right?

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Amanda Greene: Yeah. A little breather.

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yes, absolutely. I could take a deep breath, I could talk more kindly to myself, I can take this pressure off and not feel so anxious and I can just be stable in this moment and not worry so much about the next thing.

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Amanda Greene: A safe place to regroup.

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Francesca Canzoneri: Absolutely. Yes, for sure.

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Amanda Greene: What about from the parent’s perspective? Any additional benefits for them?

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Francesca Canzoneri: Yeah, I mean a lot of parents experience that empty nest syndrome when their kids move out, go away to college, or maybe they get married or they move out and get their first place for the first time or whatever, and that could be really difficult for them. So sometimes I think having them back in the home can kind of make them feel a little bit more fulfilled again, it could feel like a little bit more… I don’t want to say their purpose because we don’t only have one purpose in life, but if you’re a parent, that is a big piece of your identity and a big majority of what kind of helped you make choices in your life is by being a parent. So for people who really struggle with the empty nest syndrome, it kind of can bring back that relief of, “Ah, they still need me. I am still an important piece of their book,”Right? ” I am still an important character and I love that we have this relationship where they can still rely on me and maybe they can help me.”

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Amanda Greene: You are a joy. Thank you so much for coming on and sharing all of your insight and talking about how to handle all of the emotions that come with moving back in with your parents as an adult.

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Francesca Canzoneri: My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me.

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Amanda Greene: Thank you so much for being here. Moving back home as an adult is never an easy decision, but for Paige, it’s turned out to be a transformative experience. As we’ve heard, living with family as an adult can bring up so many emotions, from financial stress to newfound independence and everything in between. But one thing that often gets overlooked is the impact it can have on relationships. As Francesca told us, moving back home can give us that unexpected opportunity to reconnect, deepen our bonds and create new memories. And as Paige shared with us earlier, those connections can be life-changing.

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Paige Mariah: The best part about being back with my parents, just being able to be with them every single day. I really, really missed them, and I don’t think I even realized how much I missed them until I was able to move back in and see them all the time and just creating new memories with them. We’ve been traveling together, just even going for a walk with my mom in the park, that was a thing that we did a lot when I moved back, so they were really happy. And one thing about my parents, they have always been so supportive and they knew that they would be able to help me and give me this gift of living rent-free for a little while, and they would do that as many times as they could. They just want to help me get ahead always, so I’m so grateful for them.

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Amanda Greene: I think we can all agree, family matters, and whether they’re a short drive away or under the same roof, any opportunity to connect is valuable.

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Paige Mariah: I’m still a thirty-minute drive away. If they called me, I would be there in a heartbeat, whatever they need.

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Amanda Greene: Speaking of family and getting to know each other a little better, let’s wrap things up with a round of rapid-fire questions. First one, buying your own food or eating what your parents eat.

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Paige Mariah: Buying my own food, a hundred percent.

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Amanda Greene: Paying rent or enjoying the free ride.

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Paige Mariah: Oh my goodness. I don’t think anyone should ever choose to pay rent, but for now, at this point in my life, paying rent because it is worth every penny to have this peace and quiet.

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Amanda Greene: What about do your own laundry or let your parents do it?

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Paige Mariah: Let my parents take care of it. I miss that the most.

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Amanda Greene: Always letting them know where you are or staying private.

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Paige Mariah: Keeping my life totally private. My parents still have my location so they can have an idea, but they don’t need to know everything.

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Amanda Greene: How about having friends over or keeping your social life outside the home?

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Paige Mariah: Having friends over. Like, I’m so excited to host. I’ve always wanted to do that, so looking forward to my housewarming.

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Amanda Greene: How about locking yourself away in a bedroom like a teen or hanging out in common areas with your parents?

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Paige Mariah: A little bit of both. It depends on the mood that I’m in, but I think I really did enjoy hanging out in the common areas with my parents and just talking to them.

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Amanda Greene: And give it a time limit or stay forever.

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Paige Mariah: I would say for your own sanity, give yourself a time limit.

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Amanda Greene: Amazing. Thank you so much for coming on today, Paige.

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Paige Mariah: Thank you so much.

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Amanda Greene: So this is something people are doing, moving back in with their parents, some with their own families. I get it. It would be nice to save a little money, have more people around to help out with household chores, even have my mom do my laundry, but I think we’ll stay put for now.

You’ve been listening to Merging Into Life, where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time. Brought to you by AAA Northeast with assistance from JAR Audio. I’m your host, Amanda Greene.

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IN THIS EPISODE

Cruises are a big deal. The newest megaships are basically floating resorts, offering everything from water parks to skating rinks. If you prefer a more intimate, laidback experience, there are ships for your style, too. With so many options, it’s a vacation from the moment you step on board.

Before setting sail on your first cruise, there’s a lot to figure out. First, of course, is how to choose a cruise that’s best for you. Then, there’s your packing strategy, what’s worth splurging on and which onshore excursions to try. You may also have common first-time cruiser concerns like: What if I get motion sickness? And, what if you miss the boat?

We’ve got you covered. Listen in as we hear from Dana Hammond, travel journalist and cruise lover, who’s been on over 100 cruises, and Ilana Schattauer from the blog Life Well Cruised, a once-skeptic turned cruise superfan. They share their cruise tips, debunk cruise myths and talk about some of the perks aboard the best cruise ships.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

[2:16] – Keys to a smooth embarkation day
[8:59] – Top destinations from a cruise aficianado
[13:27] – Tips for first-time cruisers

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TRANSCRIPT

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Amanda Greene: Routine is great. It keeps me focused and on top of things. Here’s how my day goes. I wake up at 7: 00, make my coffee, get the kids out the door, and then it’s meetings, emails, repeat. But even the best routine starts to wear on you after a while. Sometimes what you need to stay productive and at your best is to break that routine. An ocean breeze, looking off into the horizon. What’s that? A breaching whale? Yes, please. I think it’s time for a cruise. Welcome to Merging into Life, where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time, brought to you by AAA Northeast. I’m your host, Amanda Greene.

Today, we’re going to talk about taking your first cruise. Who doesn’t love a nice vacation? I love the excitement of a theme park. There’s never a dull moment. Traveling abroad comes with new cultures, there’s so much to see and eat. But sometimes I just want to unplug. And for me that means no cooking, no cleaning and no fighting traffic. I just need to lay back and unwind. So cruising really speaks to me and in order to find out more, I turned to Ilana Schattauer.

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Ilana Schattauer: It’s funny, about 20 years ago, my husband and I decided to do a cruise for our 10th anniversary, and truthfully, I thought it would be one and done. We won’t hate it, we’ll probably like it, but we fell in love with it.

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Amanda Greene: She shares tips and cruise hacks under her banner, Life Well Cruised.

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Ilana Schattauer: We fell in love with it the moment that the ship sailed away from the shore. Throughout the rest of the cruise, we had such a good time, felt a little bit spoiled and pampered, which was nice. So after that, within a year, we brought our two young children with us and then they were raised on cruising.

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Amanda Greene: You said that even from the moment that you set sail, you just fell in love with it. What was it about that?

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Ilana Schattauer: I think there might be something to the ocean and the water, but physically we felt de-stressed the moment that the ship sailed away. It might’ve been a little bit of work things, the kids, all of the day-to-day things and we really felt like, wow, we were on vacation. And then looking forward to a sense of adventure ahead.

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Amanda Greene: Can you give us some of your tips for having a smooth embarkation day?

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Ilana Schattauer: So I do always like to tell people, make sure that you fly in one day early. And especially when it’s in the wintertime and perhaps somebody’s coming from the northeast or somewhere where weather can affect that flight, you do need at least two hours to spare before the sail away time, which is not obvious, but that is actually a rule for the cruise lines.

And another thing is don’t show up hungry. So when you get to the cruise terminal, it can take a little bit of time before you board your cruise ship and sometimes there can be a delay. So you don’t want to wake up in the morning, not have breakfast and show up starving. At least have a breakfast, some people even bring a little snack with them just in case. And this way you can ease when you get onto the cruise ship, do everything you need to do and then take your time before having your lunch.

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Amanda Greene: Because we don’t want to be hangry as we’re getting on a cruise to have an amazing vacation.

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Ilana Schattauer: You are right. It is no fun to be hangry or to be cruising with other people that are hangry.

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Amanda Greene: No. What about when it comes to packing and what you should have for that first day versus once you’re settled into your room?

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Ilana Schattauer: So you want to arrive at your cruise port with a cruise carry-on bag and basically that’s going to be the things that you need for the first few hours of your cruise before your luggage arrives. So if you are taking checked baggage, which you can do, there are going to be porters that are outside of the cruise terminal and they’re going to take your luggage and then it is going to be tagged and it’s going to be delivered to your cabin. But it can take a few hours, so we’ve boarded a cruise ship, let’s say around 12:00 noon, and we’ve got our luggage maybe around 3:00, 4:00, even sometimes 5:00PM.

So you want to have things to enjoy the day. So that’s going to be things like bathing suits maybe because the pools, all the activities, they are open right away. But other important things that you want to have is make sure that you have your boarding documentation, your identification. So oftentimes, that’s going to be a passport for a lot of people. Otherwise, always verify with a cruise line any other documentation or ID that could be required. But as well, you want to make sure you have your valuables with you. And even something as simple as you may want to freshen up when you get on the cruise ship, you may want to freshen up your makeup or deodorant or brush your teeth. So just really thinking about what are the things that you will need for those first few hours until your luggage arrives.

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Amanda Greene: What about the need to be flexible on a cruise? Because as enjoyable as it’s going to be, things are going to maybe not always go according to plan.

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Ilana Schattauer: Yes. So just like everything in life, we have to be flexible, but one thing in particular about cruises is itinerary. So a cruise ship, of course, is moving through the ocean and it’s a great vacation because you can go to several different destinations. But one thing I would caution people about is being flexible with the idea that your itinerary may change.

Now, usually itineraries don’t change, but I’ll give you an example. We were on a cruise and it was in the Caribbean right at the beginning of when Hurricane Helen was going to be passing through. So our cruise wasn’t affected, but what happened was when we got onto the cruise ship, we had a letter in our cabin stating that three of our cruise ports would be changing, and that was because the captain had made a decision to actually reroute the ship. We were supposed to be going, for instance, to Cozumel, Mexico. So there was the potential of the storm being in that area at the time, it was before it had arrived. So to just avoid any of those problems, we headed instead to Dominican Republic, which was really nice.

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Amanda Greene: Thanks, Ilana, for sharing your love of cruising with us. I’m pretty sure I’d be okay with a surprise trip to the Dominican Republic.

All right, make sure you leave plenty of time. You don’t want to miss the boat. Don’t show up hungry, and pack a carry-on so you can start enjoying all the things your ship has to offer immediately.

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Dana Hammond: We’re talking roller coasters on the top decks of these big ships, ice skating rinks tucked in their bellies, planetariums, beautifully curated lectures, so there’s something for everybody to do.

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Amanda Greene: This is Dana Hammond. She’s a travel writer whose work has appeared in major news publications and AAA magazines throughout the years. Dana loves cruises.

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Dana Hammond: It’s almost like magic. You go to sleep in one place, you wake up in a new place. I often say it’s kind of like Christmas morning for travelers every day on a cruise because you’re unwrapping a new destination.

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Amanda Greene: That is so beautiful. You’re really romanticizing cruising, and it sounds so magical. I’ve seen cruises that are like, I don’t know, 10 to 14 days long and that seems like a really long time.

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Dana Hammond: It is.

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Amanda Greene: Especially for someone who has never done a cruise before. So if someone’s never been on a cruise before, they probably shouldn’t be looking at one of those two-week long cruises, right?

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Dana Hammond: For your first cruise, five to seven days is probably the perfect time. It gives you an opportunity to get a lay of the ship and to experience all the onboard attractions. I guarantee even with seven days on most ships, you’re going to have a conversation with someone in the elevator who’s telling you their most amazing thing they did on the cruise and you’re like, “Oh, we didn’t even get to that.” And then you share yours with them and they’re like, “We didn’t get to that,” because there’s just so much to do.

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Amanda Greene: I know that there’s different kinds of cruises and every ship kind of offers different things and different cruise lines offer different things. Who are cruises meant for?

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Dana Hammond: There’s a short answer to that. It’s everybody. You can find any price point for cruises. You can find an active cruise, you can find a cruise that’s more cerebral. There are accommodations for solo passengers now. And families are very welcome on cruise ships. Some of the kids clubs that you’ll find are amazing. They’re age-specific, supervised programs. They’re decked out with the latest tech gadgetry, special clubs for teens. And believe me, the teens clubs, they do what we’re doing. They can learn how to podcast. They’ll cut videos, learn a movie. There’s gaming and sporting tournaments, dances with mocktails. I sometimes think the teens, by the end of a cruise, have the run of the ship because they have a certain agency of their own, so they learn every last space and they know the layout by the time you get off better than half the passengers.

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Amanda Greene: I’ve heard stories even of teenagers finding their lifelong best friend on a cruise because it is just a special kind of bonding that happens.

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Dana Hammond: For adults and kids too. Some cruises are almost like a camp for adults because you just have this quick bonding experience over the shared thing that you’re engaging in.

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Amanda Greene: So you were saying earlier that one of the special things about cruising is going to sleep in this floating hotel.

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Dana Hammond: That’s right.

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Amanda Greene: And then waking up in a destination. Do you have any destinations that you recommend that are really special to you?

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Dana Hammond: Absolutely. You can go anywhere, particularly from a home port in the Northeast where we are, you can head north to New England, south to Bermuda, Europe, and the Caribbean. And on the other side of the country, Alaska is easy to get to Hawaii. I’ve been to Antarctica, which was amazing.

But if I were going to recommend the first time cruiser, I would say head to the Caribbean. It’s very easy to get there. All of the ships are there. It’s open year round. It’s beautiful. There are arid islands like Aruba and lush ones like Jamaica. So the Caribbean provides an easy, convenient year-round option. And also, that’s where the cruise line private islands live and those port calls are among the most raved about on all the itineraries.

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Amanda Greene: Why do you think so?

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Dana Hammond: I think because it dovetails nicely with what cruising does, delivering that hassle-free approach. You have a carefree beach day, the cruise line takes care of everything. They’re going to give you your towel, the beach chairs are there, the umbrellas. They provide a beach barbecue and some snack shacks all included, so it’s really lovely. And they’re also tricked out in a style that is reminiscent of the various cruise lines, so it’s really an extension of that experience. But you can leave your wallet on the ship. You don’t have to worry about anything.

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Amanda Greene: Having a private island be one of the ports sounds like kind of getting the best of both worlds on a vacation because on a cruise, you probably don’t spend a lot of time at the beach. But if you are stopping for a day on one of the private islands, you have the chance to swim in the ocean and get that beach experience while also being on a cruise.

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Dana Hammond: Absolutely. Sometimes I’ve found that you want to just go, go, go with the ports, even in the Caribbean and you’re not taking that time for a beach experience. Here, it’s built in, the day is devoted to that. And as I said, you have all the amenities, you don’t have to think twice about anything. And let’s say you forgot your suntan lotion, run back to the ship and get it. It’s just so easy.

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Amanda Greene: I feel like there are so many options when it comes to cruising. Even if you just do a quick search, there’s just so many different lines, so many different ships. How do you find the best ship for you? How do you narrow down that search?

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Dana Hammond: I always look at the ship kind of as an extra travel companion and you want to have a personality that jives with the people you’re traveling with. So you do a little research, get online. The cruise line websites are true to character. They show the activities that they want to highlight, the people that are doing them, families or maybe a more mature crew line is going to be represented in that way.

You can join forums where you can actually speak with or communicate with people who have been on these ships that you’re looking into going on. You can ask them pointed questions, “Hey, Grandpa likes to golf every day, and I heard there’s a golf simulator on this or a mini golf course. Were they crowded? Were they nice? Do you think he’d be happy?” So you can really get a lot of information from that. And an agent is also very good, have to give a plug to AAA. A knowledgeable cruise agent is invaluable.

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Amanda Greene: And I know you can even book on your own at AAA.com/Cruises. There is so much information there, including deck plans. You can really get a feel for the ship right on the website. Of course, ships come in different sizes. How do the big ones and the small ones compare?

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Dana Hammond: So the big ships are kind of jacks of all trades and the smaller ships tend to be a little more luxurious, a personalized experience. I would say though, if you’re a first time cruiser and you’re really kind of battling which direction you want to go, that the larger ships do tend to be the ones that have something for everybody to do. You really can’t go wrong. At any given time, someone might be zip lining across the top of the ship while somebody else is attending an art auction or a wine lecture, so you’ll find your place.

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Amanda Greene: How many people would be on a large ship versus a small ship?

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Dana Hammond: Get ready to have your mind blown, at least I always feel like it’s a mind-blowing thing, but the largest cruise ship sailing right now can accommodate more than 7, 000 passengers.

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Amanda Greene: Wow.

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Dana Hammond: I think it’s 7, 600 to be exact. And this particular cruise line breaks their ship up into neighborhoods. And then the smaller ships, the most luxurious ships tend to be, of course you pay a little bit of a higher price point for them, but you could have as little as 400 passengers on the ship.

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Amanda Greene: Really is like a floating city, which is just so neat.

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Dana Hammond: Yes, it is. It is.

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Amanda Greene: Do you have any key tips that you share for first time cruisers?

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Dana Hammond: In particular, getting on the cruise first time, the cruise line apps are incredible. You want to download that cruise line app. It’s kind of like having a pocket sized cruise director with you at all the times. It can give you the information on when venues are open, what kind of activities are going on. You can make reservations. Some of them even allow you to turn on your cabin lights, communicate with other people. There’s information on the ship layout, there’s information on the destinations. It’s anything you want, you can turn to it. So I would say for sure, do that.

And another thing is make some reservations in advance before you get on the ship, particularly shore excursions, they can sell out and you don’t want to miss something that you want to do. Also, specialty dining, it’s an extra charge for this, but if you have a birthday or maybe an anniversary and you’re locked into a certain date, you’d want to make that reservation in advance too. You could even reserve things like spa time during a sea day when spa is humming, and that way you don’t miss out if you’re locked into a certain date.

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Amanda Greene: I feel like I see a lot of hacks on Instagram about packing.

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Dana Hammond: Well, my first rule is pack light or likely go home regretting it because cruising has become so much more casual over the years. And while it’s a great opportunity to turn yourself out in a fabulous dress and have a formal night, you definitely do not have to pack a ball gown and a tuxedo. It’s really much more casual than that nowadays.

Also, one of my cabin hacks is that ships are made of metal. You forget that because they’re so beautifully decorated interiorly. But if you buy just a couple of magnetic hooks, they can go a long way, particularly because in the bathrooms, let’s just say they’re economical in space, so counter space can be a bit limited. You throw some of those magnets up and you invest in a fold down toiletry package, you can just hook that up there and it saves space. If you’ve got kids traveling with you, hang their bathing suits on a few of them.

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Amanda Greene: What’s included in most cruises and what’s extra?

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Dana Hammond: It’s a good question because you don’t want to be disappointed. A lot of the things are included, the shipboard activities, your dining. But there are up-sales for all of this. It really depends on the line too, because when we’re talking about the bigger ships that have that resort feel or even your premium cruise lines, they have less of the things included. But when we’re talking about that 400 passenger ship, you can bet that almost every single thing is included. Sometimes even your airfare and your transportation to the ship, your shore excursions, alcohol, all of that.

But when you’re looking about things that are not included, the likely extras are gratuities. I don’t think that one surprises people too much. There are specialty dining, that’s going to be an upcharge. Your Wi-Fi is going to cost you extra and your alcohol and some beverages. That last part can throw people. Like a specialty coffee, you would pay extra for a lot of times, but not regular coffee or tea. And while the cruise line will provide things for you to drink, like maybe iced tea and lemonade and juice or variety of that, but they won’t necessarily provide soda. Some do, but not all of them do. So you have to be prepared for those extras that might come along.

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Amanda Greene: So your food other than specialty dining would be included. The nightly entertainment, the shows that you’ll often find on the ships are included.

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Dana Hammond: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: But things like the spa for example, that’s going to be an extra cost.

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Dana Hammond: Yeah.

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Amanda Greene: Do you have any strategies for people who start to feel a little uncomfortable at sea?

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Dana Hammond: I think it’s usually tied to the motion sickness. First of all, you can start by picking a great cabin for that, if that’s a concern of yours. The middle of the ship and lower is generally where you feel the least amount of motion. I also would suggest a balcony cabin because then you have access to fresh air and the horizon. The horizon usually sets your brain straight and you realize why you’re feeling a little woozy. There are, of course, medications you can take. I see people wearing sea bands that have pressure points.

But also I’d like to say that these ships are very stable, so I don’t want people to really have too much fear about that. They actually have stabilizers, which are these airplane wing things that kind of come out from the side of the ship while you’re at sea and help stabilize the ship. So it’s more often that you might forget you’re actually at sea than be worrying about that for most people. But if you have terrible issues, of course there is a medical center on the ship and they’ll help you out.

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Amanda Greene: I’m sure you’ve met a few people who are naysayers when it comes to cruising over the years, right?

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Dana Hammond: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: What do you tell them?

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Dana Hammond: It usually turns out that you need to do a little bit of myth busting, which I think we’ve done. They’ll say it’s too pricey and yet there’s various price points and there’s a lot of value included in the price that you pay. Or they’ll worry about the motion sickness and we’ve just talked about that. Or that the cruise is too crowded. Even on the biggest ship, you can find these nooks where you’re okay with having a private moment or looking at the sea and no one else seems to be around. So you can definitely seek that out. Also, that they’re bored and that’s just a hard no. There’s no way you can be.

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Amanda Greene: Right.

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Dana Hammond: No. If you want to be active, you can be active.

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Amanda Greene: And as someone who is so passionate about cruising and loves the experience, what would you tell someone who is on the fence about trying one?

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Dana Hammond: I would say go. In a life well traveled, you cannot miss out on cruising. You have to try it, and the odds are you’re going to love it. Passenger surveys and nonprofits, they show that first time cruisers have an experience that exceeds their expectations. And I always love the stat that they kind of put their money where their mouth is and book a second cruise fairly quickly after the first one.

So it’s really not much of a leap of faith to try it. You’re probably going to have an amazing time. And whether you’re choosing one of these big leviathans of the sea with all the activities or a smaller ship for a more sedate experience, I guarantee you you can find your slice of seafaring heaven out there and you’re going to have a beautiful sail away if you try it.

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Amanda Greene: Before we let you go, we’re going to ask you just some rapid fire questions. Are you ready, Dana Hammond?

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Dana Hammond: I think so. I don’t know, let’s see.

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Amanda Greene: How many cruises have you been on?

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Dana Hammond: Okay, more than 100. And it’s unusual that I don’t know my exact number because cruisers usually do know their exact number and my sister thinks it’s 150 at least.

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Amanda Greene: What’s the wildest amenity you’ve ever seen on a ship?

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Dana Hammond: I’m going to go with skydiving simulator.

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Amanda Greene: What? Have you ever been on a ship where someone was left behind at a port?

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Dana Hammond: Yes.

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Amanda Greene: What happened?

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Dana Hammond: I have. Most recently, I was in Alaska in the port of Juneau, which is a very easy port to navigate on your own, so I would almost recommend that. And these people were obviously doing that. There’s a chairlift to the top of a lookout point. And I had been chatting with them for a minute or two, lovely couple, and they said to me, “Is that ship pulling out?” And they pointed to it, and here I was excited. I said, “Yeah, we’re going to get to watch it sail away.” And they’re like, “We’re on that ship.”

I felt so bad for them because, Amanda, Juneau of all places, to get to Juneau, you have to take the Marine Highway or fly in on a float plane, and it’s your responsibility to get to the ship. Those are the rules. So I have seen that. You need to manage your time when you’re on shore. If you’re not going with an organized shore excursion where they’re going to do that for you, you need to be cognizant of where you are and when the ship leaves.

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Amanda Greene: Great tip. Have you ever seen any sea life from the ship?

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Dana Hammond: Yes, absolutely. In fact, in Alaska, most of the itineraries include a glacier viewing experience. And I’ve been in Glacier Bay. It’s funny, your ship seems big when you’re on it, most ships even, when you’re not on the hugest ship. And then you cruise up to this glacier and you’re kind of dwarfed in the presence of it. So it’s spectacular to begin with, and hopefully it calves for you and it smashes into the water and creates all these bergy, icy bits.

And we’ve seen whales, we’ve seen incredible bird life. You can spot wildlife and experience the beautiful inner passage. And for families, it’s kind of an expedition type cruise without really being a true expedition. It just has a lot to offer.

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Amanda Greene: Dana, thank you so much for coming on today and sharing all of your passion for cruising and some amazing tips. When you’ve never done something before, you have no idea what to expect.

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Dana Hammond: Right.

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Amanda Greene: You have really painted a picture for first time cruisers to kind of have an idea of what they’re getting themselves into.

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Dana Hammond: I hope so.

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Amanda Greene: So thank you for doing that.

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Dana Hammond: Amanda, thank you so much.

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Amanda Greene: That was travel writer Dana Hammond, and before that, Ilana Schattauer of Life Well Cruised. Honestly, I’ve never stepped foot on a private island or cruised past a glacier. But hey, I’ve also never gone ice skating on a ship or played pickleball with the ocean as my backdrop. Who knew there were so many ways to experience life at sea? Now that I’m thinking about it, maybe it’s time to start adding this stuff to that bucket list so that I can check it off.

You’ve been listening to Merging into Life, where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time, brought to you by AAA Northeast with assistance from JAR Audio. I’m your host, Amanda Greene. We would love to hear what you think. Your feedback really matters to us, so if you have any ideas for an episode or you just want to say hi, please leave a review wherever you listen or email us at podcast@AAANortheast.com.

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IN THIS EPISODE

Traveling to new places is always an adventure, but if you want to escape the mundane and truly explore your own way, you might want to consider renting a car internationally.

Can American tourists drive in Europe? Of course (with an International Driving Permit). Can it still be intimidating? Absolutely.

With great freedom comes great responsibility — and often some anxiety — when you are faced with tiny parking spaces, narrow streets, driving on the left side and other unfamiliar rules of the road. But don’t let that hold you back! Terry Abromitis, aka Traveling Terry, is here to offer her tips on driving in Europe, from discovering off-the-beaten-path destinations to avoiding parking tickets. Also on hand is Kevin Beresford, president of the Roundabout Appreciation Society, whose enthusiasm for traffic circles must be heard to be believed.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

[5:35] – Key things to keep an eye on when driving abroad
[11:01] – The lowdown on roundabouts: how to navigate them, and their advantages
[12:45] – Do you need an international driver’s permit?

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TRANSCRIPT

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Amanda Greene: A friend of mine just invited me to go on a trip to Europe with her, Europe! I mean, I love the idea of cruising through the French countryside in a little convertible. I can just picture it, wearing a little scarf on my head or renting an Italian villa off the beaten path. Nothing but handmade pasta and sunshine, but the catch, my friend asked if I would split the driving. So that means renting a car and figuring out how to drive in a different country. I have driven in Banff, Alberta and there were far fewer streetlights than I’m used to.

The roads are pretty dark, but other than that, it wasn’t really that different. But Europe, I don’t know. Welcome to Merging into Life where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time, brought to you by AAA Northeast. I’m your host, Amanda Greene. Today we’re going to talk about renting a vehicle. The fear of the unknown, it’s a powerful force.

I try not to let that fear stop me from doing the things that I want to do, but that doesn’t mean I’m not really intimidated sometimes. Like driving in a new place. I’m a good driver. I learned on a manual transmission. I’ve had my license for a long time, but when I think of driving in say, Europe, I think of chaotic and confusing roundabouts, narrow streets, lots of pedestrians, tight corners on turns. It all adds up to a pretty stressful mess in my head, but people do it and they love it, even if it’s a little tricky at first.

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Terry Abromitis: I used to think about going on a road trip around Ireland and I would always say, “Well, I’m going to wait to do that because I don’t want to drive on the other side of the road, so I want to make sure I go with somebody else that will do that.” And then I was like, “Why? Why am I stopping myself?”

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Amanda Greene: So she did it. She’s doing it now.

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Terry Abromitis: My name is Terry Abromitis and I go by Traveling Terry.

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Amanda Greene: Traveling Terry makes content about her life while traveling. She was kind enough to speak to us from a cottage in the Cotswolds, a region in central southwest England.

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Terry Abromitis: I mean in the movie, The Holiday, this is exactly what it looks like.

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Amanda Greene: Really? I love that movie.

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Terry Abromitis: Like today I was just driving around the Cotswolds and it is stunningly beautiful here. I had the windows down and it is like the most beautiful scenery and it’s all these narrow roads that you would go down, that you see in the movies and farms on either side with sheep and horses, maybe a few cars here and there, but I was just like, “This is not what you see on the train.”

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Amanda Greene: So I guess you’re kind of limited when you’re using public transportation about where you can go. You’re also sticking to a schedule, so the benefits of renting a car, you can go wherever you want whenever you want. What else?

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Terry Abromitis: I travel alone most of the time, but people that travel with their family, it is so much easier than getting four people on trains, not missing it, keeping all the tickets together. Being able to just load everyone in a car whenever everybody’s ready for it is just it’s so much easier. Or if you’re driving somewhere and you pass this adorable place, you can just pull over, see it, explore it, change your schedule around.

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Amanda Greene: Yeah. It sounds like renting a car is giving you a better chance to kind of curate your experience to what you’re looking for rather than just like here is the route we can take.

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Terry Abromitis: Right. And I like to kind of do things a little bit on a whim. I like to figure out my schedule as I’m going because some days I’ve got more energy to do things. Some days I want to just take a day.

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Amanda Greene: What’s the best place you’ve ever visited that you couldn’t have seen using public transportation?

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Terry Abromitis: I went to Lucerne, Switzerland. Actually, I stayed outside of Lucerne the first time that I rented a car, and I finally got to kind of expand my search for a place to stay because I knew I was going to have a car so I didn’t have to limit where I was going to be. Usually I have to be in walking distance to a train station or easy cab ride, and this was a little harder. So I found this adorable bee house on a farm with views overlooking Lake Lucerne.

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Amanda Greene: How was having a rental car, your own wheels necessary to have that experience?

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Terry Abromitis: Well, first of all, I do like to pack not so lightly. I like to pack really heavy, so to have a car and not worry about schlepping my bags onto a train and off a train and all of that is just less stress for me. But this farm had a long dirt road to get to it. I think the only way to really do it with public transportation was to take a train into Lucerne than there’s some kind of a bus that takes you to some stop. Then you have to walk up this dirt road, which is really long past cows. And it just would’ve been really challenging. And then I wanted to go into the city, so I would have to then do that every time I wanted to go see something in the city or to get anywhere else.

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Amanda Greene: It sounds like you’ve really had the chance to see a lot of cool things because you worked past all of those perceived obstacles that you kind of thought were going to be there with renting a car and now you’re super comfortable doing it because you’ve done it over and over again.

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Terry Abromitis: Yeah. Once I got over the initial fear and I did it and realized it’s really not that hard, exactly.

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Amanda Greene: What about things like gas prices? Should we expect to pay more when we’re traveling?

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Terry Abromitis: It’s pretty expensive here. Yes. And it’s by the liter. So for me, I usually have a difficult time telling how it compares to the US, but when I fill up an entire tank of gas, I usually can figure out is it more or less. And typically it’s double what I would pay to fill up my car.

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Amanda Greene: And then what about tolls and maybe even getting a ticket?

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Terry Abromitis: Some countries have more tolls than others. I’m talking to Greece. They have tolls constantly, but the easy thing is that they pretty much all take credit cards or any kind of a card. So when you get up there, all you have to do is tap or insert and you go. So they make it really, really easy. When it comes to tickets, well, sometimes you get a surprise in the mail a few months later and then you realize you drove in a zone that you weren’t supposed to drive in.

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Amanda Greene: Did you get a ticket? This sounds like you’re speaking from experience.

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Terry Abromitis: I got it. Six months later. I got a ticket from Bologna because I did not realize that when I was driving to where I was staying, I went into their Zona traffico limitato which means like a limited traffic zone. So you have to have a special permit. And that is one that you want to make sure that you don’t drive there or if you’re staying at a hotel that’s in the zone, a lot of times you can call the hotel ahead and they will take your license plate and they report it to the police so that you don’t get a ticket. So definitely do that.

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Amanda Greene: Are there any other stressors that come up when renting abroad?

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Terry Abromitis: Narrow roads, narrow parking spaces, finding parking, which oftentimes is very easy. If you’re using a navigation app, the one that I use, you can actually look for public parking areas in the city and then you can navigate to it. The biggest thing would be if you’re traveling during a peak time and it’s really crowded, then you may have trouble finding a spot somewhere.

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Amanda Greene: What do you think about all the roundabouts? That’s something that I think is a little more common in other countries.

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Terry Abromitis: Try doing it in a country that’s driving on the other side.

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Amanda Greene: Oh.

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Terry Abromitis: So yeah.

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Amanda Greene: Wowy.

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Terry Abromitis: When I first got to the UK, the first time that I rented here, it was completely against my natural instincts of where to look, where to be in the roundabout. So I do have a tip.

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Amanda Greene: Yes.

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Terry Abromitis: If you’re driving in another country that drives on the other side, you need to start getting your muscle memory to switch. You have to look right and it’s hard to get used to that. That’s probably the biggest challenge I’ve had. So I have entered a roundabout without looking and not realizing it until I got into the roundabout, and luckily I got in there safely. But you definitely want to practice a little bit, but it can be intimidating.

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Amanda Greene: Intimidating, but fascinating. We in the Northeastern United States have roundabouts, but they aren’t as baked into our everyday driving as they are for some people in other parts of the world. So if we’re going to drive abroad, let’s try to remove any negative feelings and learn to love traffic circles. We’ll come back to Terry in a minute, but in the meantime, I’d like to introduce you to someone.

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Kevin Beresford: My name is Kevin Beresford and I’m the president of the UK Roundabout Appreciation Society, also known as Lord of the Rings. That’s my official title.

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Amanda Greene: Love that. The Roundabout Appreciation Society, that’s amazing. Tell me more.

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Kevin Beresford: Well, we call them roundabouts, but the French call them giratoires I think the Americans call them circles and a lot of people call them traffic islands. So they’re just a way of filtering traffic through a roundabout piece of architecture.

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Amanda Greene: So Lord of the Rings, how do you get a title like that?

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Kevin Beresford: Back in 2003, I ran a small printing company in a town called Redditch, and Redditch at the time was a new town and we didn’t have a lot going for us. We had, this is true, by the way, we had three prisons but no cinema. But what we did have was a copious amount of roundabouts, and each year we wanted to come up with a calendar that reflected Redditch, and so we chose roundabouts for this calendar for that year in 2003. What we didn’t realize, it went viral. It sold worldwide. It was on the TV. I did interviews from all around the world. It was just meant for a joke initially, but then I thought, I got interested in it, these amazing round pieces of architecture. And so the roundabouts of Redditch, Canada spawned the best of British roundabouts, which we do now, which I’m very busy at the moment producing.

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Amanda Greene: So that first calendar that featured roundabouts of Redditch spawned almost a way of life for you. When I picture a roundabout, I think of a roadway around a patch of grass. Kevin, what are you seeing that I’m not?

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Kevin Beresford: I mean, I’ve seen paintings, statues, planes, trains, churches, pubs. I mean, up in Yorkshire, in England, we’ve got a windmill on a roundabout that produces flour. And that’s my whole point, anything can go on a roundabout and that’s what makes them so special. We see a roundabout as an oasis on a sea of asphalt.

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Amanda Greene: That’s a great way of looking at it.

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Kevin Beresford: There’s a listed duck pond down in Otford and in the middle of that duck pond, in this traffic island, there’s a little hut where all the ducks live and the locals call that Duckingham Palace.

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Amanda Greene: Oh.

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Kevin Beresford: Now, only roundabouts could boast that. Traffic lights can’t boast that, can they? Our society hates traffic lights. You have to stop when they tell you, you have to go when they tell you. But with a roundabout, it suits the British sort of sense of decorum and etiquette. You choose where you want to go in the traffic flow and you join it at your own speed, and you new exit it. It’s so quintessentially English, the roundabout.

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Amanda Greene: Kevin, you make it sound so simple. For the intimidated or unsure, give us the basics. How do you navigate a roundabout?

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Kevin Beresford: The only one simple rule, is so easy, roundabouts, is you just yield to the traffic on the right. That’s all you have to do, is yield to the traffic on the right. You’re with me? That’s it. That’s it.

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Amanda Greene: And that role stands for all the countries that drive on the left as they do in the UK. But I will note that if you’re like the other two thirds of the global population who drives on the right, yield to the left.

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Kevin Beresford: But that’s it.

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Amanda Greene: What else do you like about roundabouts?

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Kevin Beresford: By installing roundabouts, there’s been a tremendous amount of research. Okay?

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Amanda Greene: There has.

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Kevin Beresford: In America, they know it’s the safest form of filtering traffic. Okay? Because everyone’s going in the same direction. If you have a collision on a roundabout, right? It’s just a sideswipe. There’s no head- on collision. But they’re also greener. When it comes to traffic lights, it’s stop and go, stop and go, which is not good for the ecology of it all. But with a roundabout, everything’s constantly moving. Don’t you find traffic lights irritating when you have to stop when there’s nothing going past, yeah? But with a roundabout, everything’s…

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Amanda Greene: Still flowing. What are some of the disadvantages? There are none.

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Kevin Beresford: It’s safer, more efficient, it’s greener. Where is a disadvantage of it?

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Amanda Greene: Well, there you have it. There’s nothing to be scared of. And as Kevin says, all you have to do is yield to oncoming traffic and go at your own pace. With his enthusiasm, I’m almost looking forward to trying a roundabout on the opposite side of the road. Let’s get back to Traveling Terry. Let’s switch gears a little bit, renting a car and some of the things that we need to know. For example, do you get an international driver’s license? Is that something we need?

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Terry Abromitis: I do. There’s a debate of whether you need an IDP, an international driving permit when you rent a car in another country, and there are a lot of rental companies that may not ask you for it, but I am always in the camp of it is better to have something and not need it than to get somewhere and you don’t have it.

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Amanda Greene: Oh, a hundred percent. I’m with you. I would rather be extra prepared just in case, than be in a situation where I’m being asked for something that I don’t have.

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Terry Abromitis: I have been asked for it, I think once or twice, but had I shown up with no IDP, I don’t know what I would’ve done. I don’t know that they would’ve given me the car.

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Amanda Greene: Interesting. And how did you go about doing that?

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Terry Abromitis: It’s actually really easy. So AAA has a way to get an IDP really simply. They have an application on their website. I printed the application, I filled it out. I went and got my two little photos, passport type photos, and then I brought everything to a AAA location near me, and then it’s good for one year.

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Amanda Greene: How do you pick a rental company when you’re making a reservation in a country you’ve never been to before?

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Terry Abromitis: Well, I personally like to go through a third party app or third party website, and then that will generate several companies so I can choose which one. And it makes it easier to compare the prices than to go on every single brand’s website. And I most of the time will go by what is a brand I’m comfortable with. Sometimes I haven’t, but I’ve found there to be more comfort and easier rental situation with some of the more familiar brands and not the international brands., but sometimes they’re a little farther away from the airport than some of the bigger companies. So I use that and I will then filter it down to have an automatic transmission because I personally cannot use manual whether I’m in the US, in my driveway or anywhere. So I’m getting an automatic.

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Amanda Greene: I learned on a standard.

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Terry Abromitis: I can’t do it.

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Amanda Greene: And that is more common in Europe, right?

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Terry Abromitis: And it’s usually less expensive for renting, especially you’re going to rent in the UK or in a country that drives on the other side. You have to remember that if you’re getting a manual, even if you’re good at it, that’s going to be your left hand. So it’s-

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Amanda Greene: Ooh.

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Terry Abromitis: … an extra.

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Amanda Greene: That’s a really good point.

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Terry Abromitis: Yeah.

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Amanda Greene: Didn’t cross my mind.

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Terry Abromitis: Yep.

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Amanda Greene: Wow. Okay. So if we can get an automatic, is there anything else that Americans might be surprised about vehicles in other countries?

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Terry Abromitis: They have very small vehicles, which sometimes might be easier to navigate certain streets and certain towns. I personally, I’m such an SUV girl, I cannot, my spatial recognition and spatial awareness on the sides of me are not good when I’m sitting low. So I typically filter it down by an SUV. I’ll try to get a compact SUV, but they have a lot of small mini options, which is also so much less expensive when you rent. So that’s something to consider as well.

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Amanda Greene: And probably less stressful with parking.

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Terry Abromitis: You can fit in a lot more places. That’s true.

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Amanda Greene: That’s good to know. What about insurance? How do you navigate that?

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Terry Abromitis: It’s very complicated to me. Some people have insurance through their credit cards. Some people get insurance when they first rent the car. Some people get insurance when they’re checking out and they’re upsold on the insurance. So that is something that you should probably look into and see what is the best fit for your personal situation.

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Amanda Greene: I asked our very knowledgeable friends at AAA about insurance on a rental car, and this is what they said. If you’re driving within the United States and Canada, the coverage you have on your car is exactly the same as what you carry over to the rental car. No more, no less. So if you don’t have physical damage coverage on your personal cars, you won’t have it on those you rent. So you may need to purchase additional insurance. Some insurance companies will not cover loss of use of the rental car. So this may be something that you’d want to check out before relying on your existing policy. You have been on so many adventures. What‘s your best driving in a foreign country story?

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Terry Abromitis: Well, one of the best adventures, I was not the one driving because this is a destination that I probably personally would not rent a car or drive in a rental car, and that would be the Amalfi Coast. Because the Amalfi Coast is right on the edge of a cliff. Then roads are narrow, especially going around really tight turns. And then you’ve got Vespas zipping around you, and then you also have these massive tourist buses that fly around the corner right at you. So I actually booked an experience where I got to ride passenger in a vintage Fiat 500, like 1952. It is so tiny. It was a little red, beautiful car. I had in my driver, Antonio, and he lives on the Amalfi Coast, so he knew what he was doing. We had a bus coming towards us. He knew exactly how to navigate around it, so we survived. I’m still here. But it is dicey on that road, but you don’t want to not go to the Amalfi Coast because of that.

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Amanda Greene: Do you have any last words of encouragement for someone who is about to take a trip considering renting in a foreign country? What kind of tips would you leave them with?

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Terry Abromitis: The biggest thing is just having confidence and getting over the hurdle of thinking it’s really difficult or it’s something that a certain kind of a person does. If you know how to drive and you’re comfortable driving, you don’t want to miss out on some of these incredible parts of the world and these stunning destinations and experiences and people that you meet. And as somebody that travels solo, you also don’t want to wait for somebody else that has to take you.

So I just think it is something you don’t want to miss out on, and you don’t realize what you’re missing until you do it, and then it opens up like a whole new world for you. So for me, it was life- changing. I mean, now a road trip around Ireland or England, which I’m doing right now is not off the table for me anymore, and I don’t need to wait for somebody to go with me so I can do it. So I don’t want anyone else to miss out on any of those experiences.

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Amanda Greene: Before I let you go, we’re going to do a couple rapid fire questions. Are you ready?

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Terry Abromitis: Yeah.

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Amanda Greene: The best country to drive in?

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Terry Abromitis: Germany.

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Amanda Greene: The hardest country to drive in?

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Terry Abromitis: Italy.

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Amanda Greene: The strangest rule of the road that you’ve come across?

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Terry Abromitis: The Italians not driving in any lane, but in the middle. It’s an unwritten rule of the road.

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Amanda Greene: So a lack of a rule. What’s the most lost you’ve ever gotten?

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Terry Abromitis: I did have trouble. I was driving through a very, very small town in Sicily. I was meeting somebody who lived there, and they lived in the center of this little city, and these roads were so narrow and I had an SUV like I was telling you, and I just could not get through. And then if I got too far and I couldn’t get through, then I had to backtrack backwards down the same tiny streets. So yes.

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Amanda Greene: It was that tight?

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Terry Abromitis: Yes, it was pull your mirrors in tight.

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Amanda Greene: Wow.

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Terry Abromitis: Yeah.

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Amanda Greene: Wow.

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Terry Abromitis: That’s when you want to have the mini.

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Amanda Greene: Good tip. I was looking at your social media content and you’ve gone on some really great adventures. What were some of the most exciting modes of transportation you’ve taken?

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Terry Abromitis: Oh, I’ve got a lot. I’ve taken a couple of sidecar tours, Florence, Normandy, and then recently around Amsterdam. I’ve done the vintage Fiat 500. I went in a Ferrari.

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Amanda Greene: Okay.

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Terry Abromitis: From Bologna to the Ferrari Museum.

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Amanda Greene: Okay. You must have felt very fancy in a Ferrari.

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Terry Abromitis: I did. It was me and an Italian man. And then he all of a sudden we get off the highway and we’re on this road, and he looks over at me and was like, “Do you want to drive?” And I said, ” Are you sure you want to trust me with that?” And then I look and it is an automatic transmission, so I was like, “At least I know I could drive it physically.” So I said “YOLO,” and I got in the driver’s seat and I drove that Ferrari.

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Amanda Greene: That’s amazing. Thank you so much for coming on and giving us a little taste of your life and sharing all of your adventures. We really appreciate it.

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Terry Abromitis: Thank you for having me.

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Amanda Greene: You know what? I think I’m going to do it. Terry has inspired me to get out of my comfort zone and get behind the wheel, see more things. But first, I think I’m going to have to go back and give our budget episode a listen, because driving in Europe is one thing, but paying for a trip is another.

You’ve been listening to Merging into Life where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time, brought to you by AAA Northeast with assistance from JAR Audio. I’m your host, Amanda Greene. If you’re learning as much as I am, follow us wherever you get your podcasts and leave a review. We would love to know what you think. Email us at podcast@aaanortheast.com. The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are not necessarily the views of AAA Northeast, AAA, and or its affiliates.

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IN THIS EPISODE

Planning a dinner party is exciting. Whether it’s for a holiday or a gathering of friends (maybe even a few strangers), there’s nothing like sitting down and sharing a meal. Inviting people into your home to connect and break bread is the ultimate act of hospitality, but there are certain do’s and don’ts to ensure the night flows smoothly.

If you’re wondering how to plan your first dinner party, Dana Marie Roquemore, founder of the Dinner Party Project and professional host, is here to guide you.

So, pick a date, send out your invites (eight guests is ideal) and press play. Roquemore’s hosting tips include everything from picking the perfect menu and setting the table to gracefully wrapping up the evening.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

[4:20] – How doo you host a dinner party without stress? Planning a dinner party menu without breaking the bank.
[6:26] – How to set a table for a dinner party: keys to nice tablescapes and centerpieces.
[11:26] – The keys to having a successful, meaningful dinner party.

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TRANSCRIPT

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Amanda Greene: Back in my 20s, there was just so much hanging out all the time. Friends would just stop by. We’d order food, eat together, talk for hours. It’s funny how far away that feels now. I’d love to have friends over again, but with hectic schedules, so little free time, a messy house that would need to be tidied first, and the kids, I just don’t do it anymore, but maybe it’s time that changed. Welcome to Merging Into Life, where we navigate life’s milestones one episode at a time. Brought to you by AAA Northeast. I’m your host, Amanda Greene. Today, we’re going to talk about hosting a dinner party. Dinner parties can be so fun, but also daunting. If you aren’t a very specific kind of person, being responsible for the good times of a group of friends and maybe even strangers is a lot of pressure. But getting together is not only fun, it’s important. A few years ago, the American Heart Association surveyed 1, 000 adults, and 84% of them said they wished they could share a meal with loved ones more often. That’s a lot of people. That same study found a correlation between sharing meals and lowering stress. We owe it to ourselves and the people we care about to get together once in a while and break some bread, even if it’s gluten-free. But there are a lot of elements to hosting. There’s food, drinks, creating ambiance, table settings. But don’t worry, have I got a guest for you.

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Dana Marie Roquemore: A friend of mine asked me what brings you life and what brings you joy, and what are you not doing that you should be doing? I thought I guess if I could do anything that I wanted to, I would throw dinner parties.

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Amanda Greene: That’s Dana Marie Roquemore, founder of The Dinner Party Project.

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Dana Marie Roquemore: It really just started as a project of I have a dining room table that seats 8 people and I’ll invite 7 strangers over to my house to just share a meal together.

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Amanda Greene: For more than 10 years now, Dana Marie has been throwing dinner parties for a living.

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Dana Marie Roquemore: Behind the scenes, we’re taking care of everything. The chefs, the cocktails, setting the table, doing the tablescape, custom floral design, custom bar menu, doing the dishes at the end of the night, making sure that everything is flowing smoothly. We really want people to be connected and to feel connected, and around the dinner table is where we’re doing that.

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Amanda Greene: I love that. Why do you think people are drawn to this type of experience?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I believe that we all need connection. I grew up around the dinner table so most nights, I was with my family and I had to look my parents in the eyes and have real conversation. That’s something that I think is incredibly important, to know how to interact with one another, to have real conversation. Maybe we don’t always agree all the time, but how to navigate social dynamics, how to navigate good conversation.

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Amanda Greene: Do you think meeting in this way, over a meal, changes the dynamic of socializing?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I do. I think that it is important to be in that real life moment. For us, it’s about the hosting and about the curation, and that really is what sets us apart than going out to dinner. You can go out to dinner to a loud, noisy restaurant and have a great time. You’re going to have beautiful food and drinks. With the Dinner Party Project, we are really about how do we engage the whole table together. We have a host and that host is really engaging everybody while letting everybody have a turn to speak and to have a conversation about the group dynamics.

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Amanda Greene: For someone hosting maybe their first dinner party ever, embracing adulting and wanting to gather people in your life to do this, is this the time to get elaborate with a menu or should you keep it simple and mass appeal?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I think maybe your level of what is comfortable to you. It will also not be perfect. Before I started the Dinner Party Project, I had a birthday party at my house and I invited probably 18 people or something, and I was doing gnocchi and I didn’t calculate enough and I didn’t have enough food basically for everybody. I didn’t lose any friends, but sometimes it’s like you just got to start. It’s not going to be perfect, and sometimes you are going to have smaller portions that you thought you were going to have, but you’re having fun and people are together and they’re celebrating. The effort is the biggest part and the invitation around the table is the biggest part.

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Amanda Greene: OK, so how do you plan a menu, especially without breaking the bank?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I don’t think it has to blow your budget. I think that there’s great resources out there. Personally, I invest in a cooking app. There’s endless recipes on there. There’s so many ways of getting inspiration. I think a cheese board, charcuterie board can go a long way of just buying a couple cheeses, couple of fruits. You can really, I think, stretch your budget and create what you want with whatever you’re working with.

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Amanda Greene: What are your thoughts on having a dinner party be a potluck where everyone brings a dish?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I love it. I love it.

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Amanda Greene: Oh.

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Dana Marie Roquemore: Yes, absolutely. I am for any way that people are gathering together, whether it’s a fancy birthday dinner where you do bring in the chef and you do the whole thing and you ball out or you’re just like yeah, bring over a dish. With that, sometimes I would say know what everyone’s bringing so you don’t have six sides and two desserts and no main. But yeah, I think it’s the inviting and the hosting is the main part and then from there, it’s up to you what you want your evening to look like.

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Amanda Greene: What about drinks?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: Yeah.

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Amanda Greene: Are you typically doing a signature cocktail or do you have a full bar? What do you usually do?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: If it’s informal, it’s informal, which is awesome. Maybe you have a pitcher of cocktails and people can pour their own or you have wine that’s just at the table. When people come to dinner, sometimes they bring their favorite bottle of wine and we share their favorite bottle of wine around the table, which is fun and sometimes a conversation starter like oh, I had this in Spain and I found it here and I’m bringing it to share with you. We definitely always have a non-alcoholic option. We want people to feel comfortable and safe and included, so we do mocktails, we have sometimes done non-alcoholic wine, and as a host, I really always want to be aware that there is an Uber or there’s a way for them to get home safely.

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Amanda Greene: What about when it comes to things like the tablescape and centerpieces?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: Sometimes we have fresh florals at our dinners and sometimes we don’t. Sometimes it’s a mix of candles and found objects, and sometimes we mix that in with eucalyptus or greenery, which is also a very cheap way to make a tablescape look very full. Sometimes you have cute things around your house that you could get a runner and then from there, you could just piece together candles that you have or little found objects or antique things and make it fun. Or, if you want to go and get a couple bunches of flowers, having little bud vases I think makes it look a little bit fuller. If you get hydrangeas, which are really not that expensive usually, and then having a couple of those down the table, that really makes it look full and fun.

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Amanda Greene: Are those elaborate tablescapes that we often see on Instagram important in setting the mood and the tone and the way that your guests are going to walk away from the experience? Is that a really important part of the dinner party?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I think part of it is, especially again, what type of level of hosting that you’re wanting to do. But I think for something special, especially like a birthday or a celebration or a holiday, you really want it to feel like an occasion. Having a beautifully set table I think is really special, and it shows a lot of intention and time and care for your guests. If you came over and you had paper plates and solo cups, that sets one tone for the evening, and that’s one way to gather, which is beautiful. If you have a table set and you have your good silverware out and your good napkins out, it shows people wow, they really care about me being here at the table. I have to hand wash the silverware, I have to wash these napkins and fold them again. I think it does add a really beautiful element to the dining experience.

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Amanda Greene: Extra care. The care, and the thought, and the planning that went into making it beautiful. People notice those things. Once you have your menu set and your table decorated, it’s time to think about invitations. How many people do you invite?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I would say no less than 8. And then more than 12, you lose the intimacy around the table.

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Amanda Greene: Yeah.

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I would shoot for maybe 10 because sometimes somebody can’t come at the last minute, so having 8 feels like a really good-sized number.

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Amanda Greene: That’s manageable. How do I decide who to invite?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: When I started the Dinner Party Project, I have lived in Orlando for a long time and I know a lot of people casually. You go out to events, you chat them up, but you don’t really know them that well. I was like I would like to know these people a little bit more in depth. I also had a lot of really great friendships with deep friends, but a lot of those friends didn’t know each other and so I was like OK, how do I connect all these people that I kind of know and then meet new people myself? I thought around a dinner table would be a great place to do so. I do believe when you’re thinking of a guest list, you can think maybe of that nature. Who do I want to know better? Or maybe you want them to bring somebody that you don’t know.

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Amanda Greene: What if the hospitality part of it doesn’t really come naturally to someone? Do you have tips about how to keep the conversation flowing and keep everyone comfortable?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: We start with introductions and that’s an easy way to get people talking, so going around doing a short intro of themselves. People, for the most part, love talking about themselves. That’s a really easy way to get people rolling. We also have really great conversation starters. One of my favorites is if you could wake up tomorrow with a superpower, what would it be? Or if you could enable one thing into law that everybody had to adhere to, what law would you want to enable? Maybe having a couple of those in your back pocket to say here’s a question for the table and I want to hear from everybody. You could talk about music, you could bring up a film that’s popular at the moment. Have some of those things maybe written down so it doesn’t feel like you will be lost if things get weird.

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Amanda Greene: Yeah. There’s always one person in every group that insists on helping when they come to your house. They insist on being in the kitchen, coming in and helping, helping to clean up. Should we be letting them?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: Yes. I think yes and no. If it’s a more formal sit down, maybe if you have help in that situation, then maybe just gently remind them like hey, I want you here and I want you engaged. This is for you. If it’s more of a hang, more casual, more fluid, then maybe if they want to help do the dishes, don’t kick them out of your kitchen because they want to be a part of that, which is fine but yeah, I think the more intentional the night with really people being together, get them out of the kitchen. That’s not their job. Their job is to be a guest and to be with everybody for the duration of the dinner.

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Amanda Greene: You’ve given a lot of amazing ideas about how to throw a great dinner party, but in your opinion, what are the core most important parts to having a successful, memorable, meaningful dinner party?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: The first thing, the most important is really to make people feel welcomed. The hosting element is addressing people when they come in. For us, we’re handing them a cocktail or a mocktail, making sure that people are feeling included. They don’t have to be talking. Obviously everyone’s not talking the entire time, but making sure that they’re feeling included and feeling known. I think that’s the most important key element. And then having enough food, which was my rookie mistake a long time ago, but the atmosphere that you’re setting with the music, the ambiance, the connection. Hey, have you met this person? Making sure that everyone feels like they’re part of the conversation.

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Amanda Greene: I feel like anyone and everyone would want to experience this kind of connection and closeness with their friends and family, but aren’t going about hosting dinner parties. What do you think is stopping people from just doing this more often?

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Dana Marie Roquemore: I think part of it is being like OK, I am going to host something. What is a date on the calendar? It’s picking a date on the calendar and doing it, just jumping in, just being like okay, on the 7th at 7 p.m., I’m putting this on the calendar, I’m sending out the invitation. It does take intention, but you’re wanting to say I care about you, I want you in my home. People aren’t going to remember the dirty dishes, they’re remembering that you have taken the time and what an honor it is to be invited into someone’s home. I think just starting there. Maybe it’s not even a fancy dinner, maybe it’s a potluck, maybe it’s a picnic. There’s not a lot of out-of-pocket for either of those, but people are going to remember that wow, Amanda invited me over to her house with a handful of friends or maybe people that I didn’t know and I got invited and she asked me thoughtful questions.

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Amanda Greene: So toss out the idea that it has to be fancy or perfect, I guess, and just gather your people. What is your advice to people to get past the idea that it has to be something perfect and fancy?

[00:13:21]
Dana Marie Roquemore: I think it’s the intention behind it, which is being together. If that is what you want, if that’s really what you’re wanting for your community or your friends then saying I’m just going to start somewhere. You just have to rip off the Band-Aid and be like it’s not going to be perfect the first time, which is totally fine. People really, for the most part, unless the house is on fire, are not really going to remember those details. The details mostly that they’re going to remember is the atmosphere that you’re creating for them and the interest in their life. Invite people in, bring your friends. I always love when people bring somebody that I don’t know, I’m trying to meet new people. Have intention, put it on the calendar, invite your friends and say, at this time on this date, would you like to come over?

[00:14:03]
Amanda Greene: If it sounds like something that you have even a little bit of interest in doing, just do it.

[00:14:07]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Just do it. Just put it out there and you’ll be surprised that … When I started this 10-plus years ago, I was like I don’t know if anybody’s going to come over. I was like I’m going to open my home. I have a table for 8 people, I’m just going to open my doors. It wasn’t a business idea, it was just like I just love having people over. I need something new in my life. I think that people will be more responsive than you think in your head.

[00:14:29]
Amanda Greene: Yeah, I think people are craving community more than ever, and where better to do it than around your dinner table.

[00:14:35]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Mm-hmm.

[00:14:35]
Amanda Greene: Really awesome. Dana Marie, you have me inspired. I’m already trying to think who are my 8 people? Who should I be planning something special for? Before you go, I want to ask you some rapid-fire questions.

[00:14:48]
Dana Marie Roquemore: OK.

[00:14:48]
Amanda Greene: The first thing that comes to mind when it comes to hosting a dinner party, are you ready?

[00:14:53]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Yes.

[00:14:53]
Amanda Greene: As a guest, do you bring something for the host?

[00:14:56]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Yes.

[00:14:57]
Amanda Greene: What are we thinking?

[00:14:58]
Dana Marie Roquemore: A bottle of something is always nice. Candles, honestly, you can’t go wrong with a nice candle. Flowers, nobody would say no to. Or it could be something like a kitchen tool or a pack of playing cards that are really fun.

[00:15:11]
Amanda Greene: I love the idea. A pack of playing cards is a really cute idea. That never crossed my mind. OK, when do you show up? 15 minutes early, right on time, 15 minutes late, or just whenever you feel like it?

[00:15:24]
Dana Marie Roquemore: For me, for our dinner parties, if people arrive right on time, that is the chef’s kiss. Sometimes you’re like please don’t arrive early because you’re still doing the last-minute things. You’re like ahhh. Making the cocktails, doing the thing. I would personally say never to arrive early to a dinner party. What I have also learned with my friends is to say drinks are starting at this time, 5:30, dinner is at 7, because some people are just really late. If I want people there at a very specific time to sit down to dinner, then I tell them drinks are starting at this time, but I want everybody here at this time so we can all sit down together.

[00:16:01]
Amanda Greene: Totally.

[00:16:02]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Just communicating that.

[00:16:03]
Amanda Greene: Is there a way, after this amazing evening and good vibes and everything’s been going great, is there a way to gracefully guide people to the door and signal the night is over?

[00:16:16]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Yeah, absolutely. As the host, you’re there to guide the evening. You’re reading the room, you’re reading when it’s time to wrap up, if it’s time to wrap up for you, then you’re just like oh my gosh, guys, this has been incredible. What a beautiful evening. I am so glad that you shared this night with me. I love it, I hope we can do this again.

[00:16:35]
Amanda Greene: I’m going to be practicing that line because that is the most awkward part of an ending of anything for me. I’m like how do we get out of here? There’s a wrap-up speech, basically. This has been amazing.

[00:16:47]
Dana Marie Roquemore: This has been amazing. I’m so glad that you joined me around my table. What a beautiful night. And then you get up. I think that that signals to people that we’re heading toward a door or we’re heading towards a nightcap somewhere else or wherever. You are the host for the night. This is your dinner, this is your time, so you get to navigate and you get to call when the night is over and how to gracefully wrap up the evening.

[00:17:13]
Amanda Greene: You really have inspired me, so thank you so much for coming on podcast and sharing all of your expertise with us. It’s been great meeting you, Dana Marie.

[00:17:20]
Dana Marie Roquemore: Likewise. My pleasure.

[00:17:25]
Amanda Greene: This is the last episode of season one of Merging Into Life. We really appreciate you joining us, and this is the perfect time to look back over the season. Feel free to go see if you’ve missed something in our previous episodes. There are so many great nuggets to take away. I hope you’ve had as much fun and learned as much as I have along the way. As always, we would love to hear from you. Please leave us a review wherever you listen to your podcasts, or email us at podcast@aaanortheast.com. The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are not necessarily the views of AAA Northeast, AAA, and/or its affiliates. OK, so this dinner party thing is happening. I’ve already saved to date. OK, kids, who wants to polish silverware and who wants to dust?

[00:18:08]
Amanda’s Daughter: Not me.

[00:18:09]
Amanda’s Daughter: Not me.

[00:18:10]
Amanda Greene: Neither?

[00:18:11]
Amanda’s Daughter: I would rather relax.

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As of Jan. 8, Americans need more than a passport to travel to the United Kingdom.

The UK Electronic Travel Authorization (ETA) is mandatory for all travelers without visas. Even children and babies must file an application.

UK ETA Application

You can fill out a UK ETA application using the UK ETA app, which can be downloaded from the Apple store, GooglePlay or online. There is a small fee.

“It’s 10 pounds, which is, depending on the exchange rate, about $12 to $13, and it is valid for two years from the day you purchase it,” explained AAA Northeast’s trip advisor Wendy Marley in an interview with News12 Connecticut.

Besides completing the form, applicants must upload photos of their passports, scan their faces and upload photos of themselves. (Children under age 9 do not have to scan their faces.) The usual processing time for the UK ETA for U.S. citizens is between three and 10 business days.

Those with authorization can travel to the UK and back as many times as they want during those two years, according to Marley. But if your passport expires during that period, you must apply for a new ETA.

The ETA also does not automatically allow you to enter the UK. Travelers still must pass through customs and the border authorities.

Europe Will Soon Require Similar Documentation

Beginning later this year, U.S. and Canadian citizens also will need approval from the European Travel Information and Authorization System (ETIAS) to travel to 30 European countries.

This new system is designed to “identify security, irregular migration or high epidemic risks posed by visa-exempt visitors,” according to the European Union. The system is not yet accepting applications.

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For more information on the new travel requirements, contact a AAA travel advisor.

Are you planning a trip to the UK or Europe this year? Tell us in the comments.

Q. I’m experiencing an issue with my 2019 Toyota Camry SE 4-cylinder automatic transmission. I bought the car new and now it has 130,000 miles on it.  When I drive off and accelerate and the engine is “cold”, typically in the morning, the car occasionally “slips” for a few seconds as if the transmission is not fully engaged. When this brief “slippage” occurs the tachometer usually shoots up / spikes – as high as a 4000 RPM’s – also for a few seconds, then things return to normal. Again, this usually happens the first time I’m driving the car during the day and only when the engine is “cold”.  Once the engine is warmed up, things appear to be fine, usually for the rest of the day. Could this be something to do with the air intake process? The car’s been well-maintained. Gas mileage appears to be normal. Any thoughts?

A. The eight-speed transmission was a bit problematic in your year Camry. At this point I would have the shop check the fluid level and look for transmission codes. Generally, a 1-2 flare when cold indicates a sticking valve or perhaps a weak pump. A fluid change may help, but if all the tests are negative, then there may be a new transmission in your future.

Q. First, I want to say I enjoy your radio program. I have a chance to trade my 2017 Dodge RT Challenger for a 2017 Nissan 370Z. would you make this trade?

A. I like the Dodge Challenger a lot, it feels old school and solid. The Nissan 370Z is a great car but it to me doesn’t have the same ” American muscle car soul”. He is where I am skeptical, the two cars have substantially different values. If both cars are in good condition, the Nissan is worth $5-$7000 more than the Dodge. Before I considered this trade, I would have the Nissan carefully inspected, focusing on previous body and mechanical repairs as well as possible flood damage.

Q. I enjoy reading your column, and I finally have a reason to write in. I recently purchased a 2021 Toyota Tacoma. After the dealership air freshener smell dissipated, I discovered a lingering cigarette smoke odor from the previous owner. I have tried a few remedies including baking soda, leaving the windows open, and replacing the cabin air filter. The smell persists. What would you recommend I try as the next steps?

A. I would try renting a Ozone generator. These are the same machines they use in hotel rooms to eliminate odors. Ozone can be hazardous, so put the machine in the car let it work and then open the doors and let it air out. Once you are satisfied replace the cabin air filter with a charcoal/carbon impregnated filter. This type of filer will also filter out offensive smells.

Q. I need a trusted opinion, please, concerning a recent car repair bill. As an elderly female, I have been sometimes overcharged and/or sold services I later found I did not need. A recent bill struck me as higher than expected. When a tire shop broke one wheel stud on my 2012 Nissan Sentra, when swapping on snow tires recently, it caused loss of multiple lug nuts, and a scary ride on the interstate. After being towed to my auto shop, my repair bill for parts was $31.59 (1 wheel stud 3.99 and 4 lug nuts 27.60). But labor was $154.00 – for 1.40 hours, which included road test for noise. With a total cost of $187.56, I’m confused. This is a trusted shop for most labor costs (parts are high), but is 1.40 hours to be expected for this type of repair?

A. Your regular repair shop treated you fairly. The repair takes 1.6 hours to complete. the repair requires removal of the wheel hub to install the new wheel stud. So, the labor charge was correct. To me it also seems that the tire shop should have some responsibility for all of this. Even though one of the lugs broke when putting on the snow tires, the other four lugs should have held the wheel safety until the car was repaired. From your description it sounds as if the tire shop did not fully tighten the wheel.

Q. I have a 2100 Volvo XC90 with 194,000 miles. The car was running great on a highway trip and I got a P0011 code on the highway and I noticed I didn’t have the acceleration. I went to my mechanic, and he suggested I check my oil level first before I start to replace the camshaft oil control valves. His reasoning is that since the valves all run on oil pressure and if the oil is low or dirty, this could cause a P0011 code. The oil level was fine but I was due an oil change, so I changed the oil, cleaned all the camshaft oil control valves and checked for any frayed wires to the connectors. After about 175 miles the P0011 code came back on. My mechanic suggested I replace the control valves. After the repair the car ran fine, no problems. Then after about 300 miles I got a P0013 code, which indicates a variable valve timing component. Again my mechanic suggested cleaning the camshaft timing actuator sensors, which are also motor oil sensitive. After 200 miles, the P0013 code came back on. The car was running fine, I didn’t notice any difficulty in performance. We replaced the camshaft timing actuators. The car ran great. Now I just got a P0016 code that might be a worn timing chain or misaligned camshaft adjustment and the P0011 code came back on too. The car runs great. Now I’m looking at a new timing chain or adjustment. That looks like a big job. Since the car runs great, there are no accumulation problems. I’m wondering if a new timing chain will correct all these related codes.

A. The P0011 code leads me to the timing chain but if cleaning and replacing solenoids did not work it is more than likely the VVT (variable valve timing) units. The P0013 could be timing related but also could be an open or short in the ECM to VVT solenoid. I would also do a very close visual inspection of the wiring. I have seen multiple cases of wiring damage caused by rodents lately. There is no easy answer to this one. At this point a technician with a scope may be able to check the timing-the issue is this all has to do with the synchronizing of the crankshafts and camshafts (which could be a loose timing chain).

Q. We own a 2017 Chevy Suburban, and my son wants to install a defeat device for the cylinder deactivation system. Do these defeat devices cause any issues?

A. The engine in your Chevy and other vehicles can shut down up to half the cylinders to improve fuel economy. Depending on the device, if it plugs into the under dash (OBD) diagnostic connector it is possible that it could have a negative impact on the car’s computer system. The OBD connectors were never designed to have constant two-way communication. Also, the cylinder deactivation systems are emissions controls and using this device is technically tampering with emissions controls. If it were my truck, I would not use it.

Q. I read your column every week and learn something every time. What I enjoy most is that your column can be understood by everyone, not just the auto enthusiast.  I have a 2022 Lexus ES350. Recently I lost the alternate car key, the smart card wallet key, and cannot find anyone other than the dealer who sells them. I see plenty of digital key fobs available but no smart card. Do you know of any companies that sell the card?

A. The vehicles that use a smart card style remote such as Tesla, Rivian, and Lexus up until now these cards and the programming was only available through the dealer. I did a quick internet search and after striking-out several times, I did find keylessexpress.com. According to their website they have the Lexus smart card key.

For those who love the snow and don’t mind the cold, these are some of the best national parks to visit in winter. Avoiding crowds and higher prices are just a few of the perks that come with visiting during the off-season.

Mark your calendar for free entrance days throughout the year.

• January 15: Birthday of Martin Luther King, Jr.
• April 20: First day of National Park Week
• June 19: Juneteenth National Independence Day
• August 4: Anniversary of the Great American Outdoors Act
• September 28: National Public Lands Day
• November 11: Veterans Day

Acadia National Park, Maine

Though whale watches might not be on the winter agenda at Acadia National Park, the snow-covered terrain offers plenty of other activities for wildlife viewing. The 45 miles of carriage roads that weave their way through the forests make for a fabulous Nordic ski adventure. Fat-tire bikes and dogs are also welcome, but not on groomed trails. Numerous hiking paths in the park and up Cadillac Mountain can be just as glorious as in the summer, and with better views of the harbor to boot since the leaves are off the trees. But the right equipment is a must; the ocean wind and granite outcroppings make for some slippery trails. Snowmobilers can explore the park on the unplowed parts of the park road, but make sure to bring your own machine; there are no rentals on Mount Desert Island. Truly intrepid visitors can take advantage of the limited number of winter backcountry campsites.

Check out our guide to Acadia National Park.

Denali National Park & Preserve, Alaska

Perhaps the quintessential national park to visit in winter, Denali offers a veritable wonderland of cold weather activities. Thrill seekers can get their hearts pumping cross-country skiing or fat-tire biking along the unpaved park road. Those wanting more rugged adventures can climb into the mountains for Telemark skiing and boarding. Backcountry winter camping provides complete peace and solitude and perhaps one of Mother Nature’s best shows: the aurora borealis. The Murie Science and Learning Center, located at mile 1.4 on the park road, is open daily for information, backcountry camping permits and free snowshoe rentals.

Grand Canyon National Park, Arizona   

The South Rim of this iconic national park is open year-round, and the winter just might be the best time to visit. One of the main reasons is the smaller crowds – 90% of the visitors to Grand Canyon National Park come in the summer months. That means hotel reservations, backcountry permits and lines for just about every amenity are easier to come by when the temperatures (and the prices) fall. For photographers, the angle of the sun during the colder months creates a more spectacular sunrise and sunset than in the warmer months. And speaking of temperatures, hiking up and down the trails is definitely more comfortable at 30 or 40 degrees, compared to the sweltering heat of July and August. Another plus: with fewer tourists creating noise, wildlife sightings are more frequent.

Rocky Mountain National Park, Colorado

If Colorado is synonymous with winter fun, then Rocky Mountain National Park is one of the top reasons why. Summer doesn’t mean the end of hiking season here – by donning a pair of snowshoes, outdoor lovers can continue to explore the park’s snow-packed trails. For a slightly faster experience, cross-country skis are the way to go. Though the entire park is open for Nordic skiing, the west side offers better terrain and snow depth. For kids and adults alike, Hidden Valley’s sledding hill provides an afternoon of high-speed snowy sliding. Of course, because there’s no tow rope to get back to the top of the hill, sledders are bound to get tuckered out quickly.

The native wildlife puts on a nice show in the winter, when fewer tourists and less traffic mean moose and other large mammals are more likely to wander into the open. Bighorn sheep gather near Highway 34 on the park’s east side, and numerous birds, such as bright blue Steller’s jays and the iridescent magpies, make the park their winter home.

Voyageurs National Park, Minnesota

The watery byways that render this northern Minnesota park inaccessible by land during the summer months become icy highways when the rivers and lakes freeze over. Visitors can zip around on snowmobiles or explore the tranquil forest trails on cross-country skis or snowshoes. Rainy Lake Visitors Center is open year-round and offers free Nordic ski rentals for both children and adults.

Yellowstone National Park, Idaho/Montana/Wyoming

Steaming hot springs, lighter crowds and a sense of traveling back to simpler times await those who visit Yellowstone National Park in winter. Most of the park’s roads close by November, so guided snowmobile tours and snow coaches are the only options to reach some of the park’s most well-known sites, such as Old Faithful. For those who want to explore under their own power – on skis or snowshoes – two lodges and several visitors’ centers are open year-round. Cross-country skiing and snowshoeing are a great way to see the park during the quieter season. A few tracked trails provide an easier jaunt, but ungroomed trails, as well as unplowed park roads, also are options.

Have you ever traveled to a national park during the off-season? Tell us your favorite national parks to visit in winter in the comments.

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The Civil Rights Movement was one of the most transformative times in American history. It would be impossible to summarize its significance in a single museum or honor its participants’ efforts with a sole monument. Fortunately, there is the U.S. Civil Rights Trail to do just that.

Created in 2018, the trail guides visitors to more than 100 locations across 14 states. It was created through the combined efforts of several official state tourism agencies. Joining all these locations into a single trail helps highlight the breadth and significance of the Civil Rights Movement.

“For too long the churches, courthouses and schools where significant civil rights activity had occurred were ignored or otherwise unappreciated,” said Lee Sentell, director of the Alabama Tourism Department. “Linking the historic places focused a spotlight to honor the contributions that courageous activists had made at great personal risk.”

The U.S. Civil Rights Trail has also sparked tourism in the Southern states. “Since the U.S. Civil Rights Trail was launched, most of the 140 sites have experienced substantial growth in the number of visitors seeking to learn more about the history of the movement,” Sentell said. “Equally important, those Southern states that hadn’t previously developed a trail highlighting their heritage landmarks have now done so.”

Here are some of the U.S. Civil Rights Trail’s most noteworthy destinations.

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Alabama

Birmingham

The 16^th Street Baptist Church – still an active church today – served as a meeting place for organizations participating in marches and other civil rights activities. In 1963, the church was bombed, killing four young girls. The event spurred the government to act on civil rights legislation.

The Alabama city is also home to the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute. The 58,000-square-foot museum features a rendition of a 1950s segregated city, a replica of a Freedom Riders bus and the actual door from the jail cell that housed King when he wrote his famous “Letter From Birmingham Jail.”

Montgomery

Alabama’s capital city was one of the epicenters of the Civil Rights Movement. It is justly well-represented on the trail. The Dexter Avenue King Memorial Church was the first church where King served as a pastor. It also hosted meetings that led to the Montgomery Bus Boycott.

The Rosa Parks Museum is located at the site where Parks boarded a public bus and was arrested. The Freedom Bus Museum is found at the bus station where Freedom Riders were attacked in 1961. Take a virtual tour.

Montgomery is also home to the Civil Rights Memorial Center and National Memorial for Peace and Justice. The former serves as a tribute to all those who died during the Civil Rights Movement, and the latter is a memorial recognizing the thousands of lynchings that occurred across the country during this time.

Selma

The most iconic site in Selma is the Edmund Pettus Bridge. The National Historic Landmark was the site of the first march for voting rights on March 7, 1965. Unfortunately, the location became etched in history due to the brutal beatings of marchers that took place that day in a conflict that became known as Bloody Sunday. The events were televised across the country. This prompted public support for civil rights activists and the voting rights campaign.

Tennessee

Memphis

The Lorraine Motel holds a solemn place not only in the Civil Rights Movement, but also in the collective history of the country. The site of King’s assassination is now part of the National Civil Rights Museum. This collection of historic sites tells the story of the movement from the 17th century to present day.

Arkansas

Little Rock

Little Rock drew the eyes of the country in September 1957. Following the decision in Brown v. Board of Education, Arkansas Gov. Orval Faubus called in the Arkansas National Guard to block nine black students from entering Central High School. President Dwight D. Eisenhower sent federal troops to protect the students and allow them to enter. Eventually, the Little Rock Nine were all admitted in what was a major milestone in the fight to integrate schools.

Although it’s still in operation today, the museum and visitor center located across the street offers tours of the high school. There is also a memorial to the Little Rock Nine at the Arkansas state Capitol.

Georgia

Atlanta

Martin Luther King Jr. was born in Atlanta in 1929 and the city has been sure to honor its native son. The National Historic Site named in King’s honor consists of his childhood home, where he lived the first 12 years of his life, and the Ebenezer Baptist Church, where he was baptized, ordained and served as co-pastor with his father until 1968.

The King Center is the burial site for both King and his wife Coretta Scott King. It also houses many of King’s papers.

Also of note in Atlanta is the Center for Civil and Human Rights. This multicultural center includes exhibits highlighting the civil rights and modern human rights movements.

Robert Tyrone Patterson Sr. Interview Greensboro, NC from U.S. Civil Rights Trail on Vimeo.

North Carolina

Greensboro

Greensboro is home to the former Woolworth department store, site of one of the most critical events in the movement. In February 1960, four students from the North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University sat at the counter and ordered coffee but were refused service. The four remained sitting until the store closed. Over the ensuing days, the sit-in grew to include more than 300 students and nearby businesses. It spurred a widespread movement of peaceful demonstration across the country.

Woolworth’s has since been incorporated into the International Civil Rights Center & Museum. The lunch counter and four seats the students occupied the remain in their original positions. A monument of the four students sits on the North Carolina A&T campus.

Washington, D.C.

The nation’s capital has numerous sites that honor the civil rights movement. Most notably is the National Museum of African American History and Culture. Opened in 2016, the Smithsonian Institution museum contains 36,000 artifacts and is the only national museum dedicated entirely to the African American experience.

The Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial, a 30-foot stone sculpture, was dedicated in 2011. The monument made King the first African-American to be honored with a memorial on the National Mall.

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Have you been to any of these sites? Tell us about it in the comments below.

This article has been updated and republished from a previous version.

The sober travel trend has reached every corner of the globe, from airlines serving mocktails to alcohol-free bars and dry retreats around the world. 

Booze-free travel is growing every year, especially among millennials and Generation Z, who are prioritizing travel without the hangover. Tour companies, hotels and brands are capitalizing on this by offering experiences that align with dry lifestyles.

Here are some of the latest travel trends and experiences in the alcohol-free travel realm.

Mocktail Mania

Hotel chains worldwide have embraced non-drinking activities with mocktail experiences and classes for sober travelers.

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AAA Three Diamond designated hotel Tempo by Hilton Times Square and other Tempo properties have a unique mocktail beverage program in partnership with Lyre’s, a zero-proof line of spirits. Halfway around the world, Jumeirah Olhahali Island Maldives offers an expert-guided, mixology master class with non-alcoholic spirits from Lyre’s (think zero-proof bourbon, whiskey, gin and rum).

Meanwhile, tour companies have expanded from pub crawls and wine tastings to mocktail classes and spirit-free tastings.

Custom Spirit-Free Hotel Offerings

Whether sober or sober curious, hotels will tailor your trip to accommodate your preferences. The newly opened Eriro in Ehrwald, Austria, is an off-the-grid haven with only nine suites. Before arriving, their team calls guests to confirm dietary requirements and beverage preferences and recommends regional and homemade non-alcoholic beverages. The culinary team even forages for fresh ingredients like pine needles and mountain herb syrups to create magical mocktails.

With the growing interest in alcohol alternatives, Hyatt has implemented the Zero Proof, Zero Judgement initiative. The program expanded its non-alcoholic menu items at hotel bars and restaurants around the U.S. The AAA Four Diamond designated Hyatt Centric Faneuil Hall Boston takes it one step further by offering a Booze-free Boston package for sober travelers. The package comes with a gift basket of non-alcoholic canned cocktails and souvenirs, a map of nearby establishments with the best booze-free drink options and a special room service delivery of a non-alcoholic turndown cocktail and dessert.

Alcohol-Free Bars

In the last few years, alcohol-free bars and destinations have started to pop up throughout the United States and beyond, offering patrons a place to gather with friends without the buzz.

New York City is home to Hekate Cafe & Elixir Lounge, a sober bar and bottle shop that hosts events like tarot card readings. Across the nation in Hood River, Ore., the Wilderton Tasting Room is the country’s first alcohol-free tasting room and distillery.

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Meanwhile, Kansas City, Mo., is emerging as a destination for a sober vacation. Just a short drive from downtown, Wild Child in Shawnee is making waves with a focus on low and no-proof drinks, like its no-alcohol espresso martini and negroni. The bar even earned a spot on Bon Appetit’s list of the 11 best new bars of 2023. Mean Mule Distilling Co. is another hotspot in the area with a creative mocktail menu to provide an inclusive experience for those avoiding alcohol.

Water Tastings

Some restaurants and hotels have taken the trend further by offering water tastings. Non-alcoholic restaurant Shor in Los Angeles crafts innovative mocktails and has a unique water bar, featuring extravagant water bottles from France, Finland, Canada, Slovenia and Germany. They even have a $1,000 Swarovski crystal-encrusted bottle of Fillico Jewelry Bottle from Kobe, Japan, sourced from a natural spring.  

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AAA Four Diamond Epicurean Atlanta Autograph Collection offers a zero-proof, pour-of-the-month option for sober travelers. The hotel is also known for its vibrant culinary classes at Epicurean Theatre. A staple event each year is the World of Water in January, a tasting of some of the finest water from around the world with a certified water sommelier.

Sober Retreats

Skipping the booze at a wellness retreat is nothing new. However, the number of retreats catering to sober travelers is multiplying in the U.S. and abroad. The Art of Living Retreat Center is an alcohol-free oasis in Boone, N.C., offering various wellness programs. Its Ayurveda wellness cleanse and detox retreats gives visitors deep rest and rejuvenation with no aftereffects.

Aleenta Phuket, located on the Andaman Sea in Thailand, is a secluded getaway where individuals can enjoy travel without the influence of alcohol. Home to Ayurah Spa and Wellness Center, guests enjoy tailor-made holistic wellness programs with master therapists.

Zero-Proof Airplane and Minibar Options

The non-alcoholic beverage movement is taking off with airlines, too. Many airlines now offer an exciting array of virgin beverages (goodbye stale coffee and orange juice). JetBlue has added a craftmix strawberry mule mocktail and Athletic Brewing Co. non-alcoholic beer to its drink menu, Emirates Airlines advertises onboard mocktails, like a virgin mojito, and Qatar Airways’ variety includes a cranberry apple cooler.

Curious about your hotel’s mini fridge? Santo Pure, a property in Oia, Santorini, has a wellness ethos, and its suite minibars have beverages focusing on functional wellness with items like no-sugar kombucha, immunity shots and matcha tea beverages, among others. Yes, please!

Have you tried sober travel? Tell us what you think about traveling alcohol-free in the comments.

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When it comes to art destinations in the Northeast, you’d be forgiven for only thinking of the region’s major metropolises and their world-class museums. And while the Met, MoMA and the Museum of Fine Arts should be on every art aficionado’s bucket list, New York City and Boston aren’t the only cultural hubs worth visiting.

Here are four road trip ideas to Northeast cities and regions doubling as artistic havens.

The Hudson Valley

The Hudson Valley’s scenery is gallery-quality itself, but there are even more stunning sights to behold thanks to the region’s bounty of art museums. In the town of Nyack, just north of Manhattan, is the Edward Hopper House. The 19th-century building was the iconic artist’s childhood home. Today, it serves as a museum that exhibits Hopper’s art, as well as artifacts and memorabilia from his life.

Further up the river, you’ll find the Storm King Art Center just outside of West Point, in the town of New Windsor. The 500-acre outdoor museum is home to large-scale sculptures and artworks amidst meadows and rolling hills. Just across the Hudson is Dia Beacon. The expansive building, which once served as a Nabisco box-printing factory, is home to the majority of the Dia Art Foundation’s collection, ranging from the 1960s to today.

One last stop worth making is to Olana State Historic Site in the city of Hudson. The house and estate were once home to renowned landscape artist Frederic Church. Now it serves as a showcase for art, architecture and landscape.

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Western Massachusetts

Western Massachusetts is known as the home of the picturesque Berkshires. The region boasts an excellent food scene, recreational activities and a long list of cultural destinations. Speaking of this last category, nestled amongst the trees and rolling hills are three museums that every art connoisseur should have on their itinerary.

The trip starts in the southern portion of the state in the cozy town of Stockbridge. Here you’ll find the Norman Rockwell Museum, home to many of Rockwell’s iconic original paintings. In the northwest corner of Massachusetts, the town of Williamstown is home to the Clark Art Institute, a public art museum and academic research center.

Finally, head to the adjacent town of North Adams for the crown jewel of the Western Mass art scene: MASS MoCA. The museum’s expansive layout and indoor and outdoor venues perfectly showcase art of all forms, including painting, photography and sculpture.

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Portland, Maine

Portland is so much more than lobster rolls and lighthouses (although those alone are worth the trip to Maine). It’s also one of the Northeast’s top art destinations. In the heart of the city is the Portland Museum of Art, the state’s oldest and largest public art institution. The museum’s vast collection of more than 18,000 pieces includes work by Andy Warhol, Winslow Homer, Claude Monet, Pablo Picasso and Edvard Munch. In warmer months, you can tour Homer’s studio and spend time in the museum’s sculpture garden.

Portland is also home to the University of New England Art Gallery. The museum houses the university’s permanent collection and puts on exhibits that focus on the environment, social sciences, medicine, education, arts and humanities. Just outside of town is another university-based art institute – the Bowdoin College Museum of Art. The museum is home to one of the earliest collegiate art collections in the nation, which has grown to include more than 25,000 pieces of work dating back 5,000 years.

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Burlington, Vt.

If you’re only visiting the Burlington area for the skiing, you’re missing out on one the Northeast’s cultural gems. Vermont’s largest city is home to an art scene teeming with more than enough museums and galleries to fill any itinerary.

The Fleming Museum of Art, located on the University of Vermont campus, is the state’s preeminent institution of its kind. It houses a 24,000-piece collection from artists and cultures around the world. The nearby Champlain College Art Gallery, meanwhile, focuses on the work of contemporary local artists working in all media.

The Burlington City Arts Center hosts exhibitions, as well as art classes, camps and open studio hours in its three-level, state-of-the-art facility. Other notable stops to make on your Burlington art road trip include the S.P.A.C.E. (Supportive Places for Artists and the Creative Economy) Gallery, Soapbox Arts and the Frog Hollow Vermont State Craft Center.

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The art is calling, now all you need is a ride. Good thing AAA members can save on Hertz rentals.

Whether you’re trying to establish a healthy habit in 2025 or just maintaining your current routine, health, fitness and self-care products can get expensive.

AAA Discounts can help you stay on track with your goals for less.

Active&Fit Direct Program

Why join one gym when you could join thousands? With the Active&Fit Direct Program, you won’t be tied down to any one gym – users can choose from over 12,000 fitness centers and over 4,500 premium exercise studios nationwide. With no long-term contracts, you can try a variety of gyms to find the perfect one for you while keeping your options open and flexible.

The Active&Fit Direct Program also offers digital workouts in categories like cardio, strength, dance, martial arts, mind/body, high intensity interval training and cycling. There are thousands of workout videos to choose from! Try out a bunch of different exercise regimens and see which ones you like best.

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Home Chef

The best way to eat better is to cook for yourself. But if you don’t know how to cook, or you feel like you have no time for groceries, it can feel intimidating to start. With Home Chef, you can get weekly deliveries of delicious ingredients for restaurant-quality meals you make at home. The detailed recipes and step-by-step instructions can turn anyone into a skilled home chef.

AAA members get 60% off their first box and 20% off their next two months of Home Chef, for a combined savings of $220.

Thrive Market

Prefer to find your own ingredients? Thrive Market can help you save on thousands of organic and non-GMO brands. Get pantry staples, meat, seafood, wine and more. It’s all below retail prices, and all delivered to your door. Plus, every membership goes to support a family in need.

AAA members can save 30% off their first order (max discount $30) and receive a free gift (up to $60 value).

Golf Mind and Body

Taking care of your body is a lot like a game of golf. Well, at least with Golf Mind and Body it is. This app is all about upping your golf game by focusing on your overall wellbeing.  You’ll learn golf mechanics, golf-specific fitness programs, mental strategies, nutrition, hydration and exercises with the Tours’ most accomplished trainers and instructors.

AAA members can get $50 off on a membership.

Samsung

It helps to know what’s going on with your body. Samsung offers a variety of smart watches that can track your fitness, including the Galaxy Watch7. The Galaxy Watch7 can monitor heart health, run body wellness assessments, count your steps, optimize your workouts, help you improve your sleep habits and more.

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Clarins, USA

Want to save on your skincare routine? Clarins offers premium cleansers, toners, moisturizers, masks, UV protectors, hand care, foot care and more. Plus, the company is committed to sustainable sourcing and eco-friendly design. After you’re done with your skincare, you can finish off your look with some quality Clarins makeup. It’s never been easier to care for your skin.

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Norton 360

What does Norton have to do with wellness? In times like these, your internet hygiene can be an important part of your mental health and financial wellbeing. Don’t stress over hacks, scams and phishing schemes. Norton 360 can give you comprehensive protection against viruses, malware, identity theft and more.

AAA members can save on Norton 360 subscriptions.

TaxAct

Another great way to minimize stress and maximize your financial wellbeing is to do your taxes early. Many people wait to do their taxes because they’re intimidated by the process, but filing your taxes doesn’t have to be hard. Software like TaxAct is designed to help users navigate the complexity of taxes with ease and accuracy. 

AAA members can save 25% on tax prep and filings with TaxAct.

Chewsi

Your dental health impacts your overall wellbeing, so it’s important to take care of those pearly whites. With Chewsi, you can find affordable dental care near you. Whether you need a root canal or a routine cleaning, Chewsi can help you save.

AAA members can save on dentist visits.

LensCrafters

Has it been a little while since your last eye exam? Taking care of your vision is part of taking care of your whole body. At LensCrafters, you can get an eye exam and new glasses or contacts to boot!

AAA members can save on eye exams, plus discounts on new lenses, frames and contacts.

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Winter storms, including snow, ice, freezing and flooding, have cost billions of dollars in insured losses over the past few years alone, according to the Insurance Information Institute. Wind and hail consistently lead homeowners claims, followed by water damage and freezing.

Make sure you’re ready for winter insurance risks and the challenges cold weather may bring your way.

Top Winter Insurance Claims

• Ice dams. When cold weather persists, ice dams can form on the edge of your roof, blocking melting snow from falling away and refreezing as temperatures drop. This cycle of melting and refreezing can cause ice to form under shingles and could eventually lead to leaks and water damage inside your home.
• Roof and siding damage. Heavy snowfall, sleet, hail and perilous winds can make winter weather unpredictable. Because roofing and siding bear the brunt of this impact, they comprise a significant portion of homeowner losses over the winter months.
• Losses from falling tress and limbs. This is one of the most common claims AAA Insurance sees. While structural damages to your home or car caused by falling trees and limbs from heavy snow and wind are obvious losses, power loss could also be an issue. To possibly get reimbursed for the cost of lost groceries due to a power outage, check with your insurance agent to see if food spoilage coverage is on your policy.
• Frozen pipes. The most common winter insurance claims stem from how the elements affect your home’s exterior, but don’t forget about your plumbing. When pipes freeze, they can burst and cause substantial water damage. The most severe instances happen when homes experience a power outage, resulting in a loss of heat over a significant period of time. So, if you plan on being away from home for an extended period of time, it’s a good idea to shut off the water to your home and drain your pipes.
• House Fire. This kind of property damage is typically traced back to a secondary heating source. “Although many homeowners think of themselves as being responsible with this, individuals that live in multi-family homes, apartments or condos need to also consider if they’re adequately covered if they suffered a loss due to a neighbor’s negligence,” said Jodi DeSantis, vice president of insurance sales for AAA Northeast.

What You Can Do to Prepare for Winter

• Fight back against ice damming. Add extra insulation to your roof to let the indoor heat melt the snow and ice slowly from the inside out. If your roof is prone to ice damming, use a roof rake shortly after a storm to clear as much snow off as you can, even if it’s just around the gutter line. Do not climb onto the roof; if you need a more thorough cleaning, hire a contractor.
• Insulate your pipes, doors and windows. By adding insulation to your hot water pipes, you can minimize the chances those pipes will freeze over and blow. Air leaks near doors or windows should also be eliminated with weather stripping or other door draft stoppers.
• Keep an eye on your trees. Fallen tree branches are one of the most likely – and most damaging – forms of debris you’ll face during cold weather. To prevent damage, trim back any trees that are too close to your home or driveway.
• Inspect your ducts and plumbing. Your furnace and heating ducts need to be in working order to prevent or minimize winter damage. Reach out to a professional if needed for a thorough inspection.

Review Your Insurance Policy

Try to make a habit of reviewing your insurance policy and updating your documentation, including photos, to reflect your home’s condition before the winter. This gives you an opportunity to refresh your understanding of what is included and, accordingly, what actions you might need to take to protect your home.

Most home insurance policies will provide coverage for wind or falling debris that may cause damage to your home.

Damage caused by flooding – which can occur in the winter if the temperature spikes – is not within the scope of a standard policy. Flood insurance must be purchased separately. In insurance terms, a “flood” has a very specific definition and is excluded from a homeowner policy; however, water from a leaking pipe, for example, is typically protected if purchased as part of a policyholder’s coverage.

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Great live theater is not confined to the city limits of New York City and Boston. You can find thriving, professional, year-round theater throughout southern New England. Here, we share a baker’s dozen of professional theaters, many housed in historic architectural venues.

Connecticut

A.C.T of CT

Ridgefield

Housed in a state-of-the-art theater that was once laboratory space, A.C.T. of CT (A Contemporary Theatre of Connecticut) focuses on supporting American musical theater. The theater company stages professional productions of beloved musicals and provides space for playwrights to workshop emerging musicals. A.C.T. of CT also hosts a popular “Broadway Unplugged” series, in which popular Broadway performers sing tunes solo, accompanied only by piano.

Legacy Theatre

Branford

The Legacy Theatre’s opening is just the latest chapter in the storied and varied history of this entertainment locale, which has at turns hosted a silent movie house, a puppet museum and an aborted attempt by Orson Welles to host what might have been the first multimedia experience. Legacy Theatre offers an eclectic mix of crowd-pleasers and less well-known works in a village on Connecticut’s southern coast.

Yale Repertory Theatre

New Haven

Since its inception in 1966, this acclaimed theater has staged more than 100 premieres of new theatrical works, including two Pulitzer Prize winners. Connected with the storied David Geffen School of Drama at Yale University, Yale Repertory Theatre hosts university students as understudies or in small roles. It also incubates new theater at the more intimate Binger Center for New Theatre.

Massachusetts

Hanover Theatre & Conservatory

Worcester

Located in a historic and restored theater building, the Hanover Theatre hosts a season of touring Broadway-production musicals. Hanover Theatre’s more intimate BrickBox Theater provides the stage for shows from the THT Rep, a troupe that combines the work of professional actors with local actors in training.

Merrimack Repertory Theatre

Lowell

This 279-seat theater is nestled within a larger auditorium complex just a few blocks from the storied Merrimack River. For more than four decades, the theater company has staged seasons of thoughtful plays you are unlikely to see elsewhere in the region and hosted the world premiere of several plays from acclaimed playwrights.

North Shore Music Theatre

Beverly

A bastion of theater north of Boston, the North Shore Music Theatre stages crowd-pleasing musical theater throughout the summer and fall, and its much-beloved production of “A Christmas Carol” closes out each season. The theater has been in operation since 1954 and features 1,500 seats for in-the-round viewing.

New Jersey

Paper Mill Playhouse

Millburn

For the past 90 years, this 1,200-seat theater has hosted crowds in a historic building that harkens back to the region’s more industrial past. The playhouse stages both newer and well-loved musicals, as well as musical trivia and murder mystery events. Located close to the Big Apple, the theater attracts the talents of commuting New York City actors.

UCPAC

Rahway

A historic theater built in the old school, “picture palace” style, UCPAC (Union County Performing Arts Center) now serves as a multipurpose venue for live, performing arts. UCPAC also has the distinction of hosting its Sensory Friendly Theatre series of live theater, dance and music. This series is especially tailored to children and adults with autism and includes specially trained staff and volunteers who can assist theatergoers throughout the performance.

New York

Chenango River Theatre

Greene

An intimate professional theater far from New York City, the Chenango River Theatre offers shows that are also a bit off the beaten path. It is also one of the few professional theaters in the area that stages a summer and fall season with non-musical productions.

The Gateway

Bellport

Billed as “Broadway on Long Island,” the Gateway’s seasons favor crowd-pleasing jukebox musicals and seasonal fare. Located a relatively easy commute from New York City’s theater district, this theater draws its casts directly from the Big Apple.

Stanley Theatre

Utica

Housed in an historic Baroque-style theater, the Stanley Theatre hosts an eclectic mix of touring theater productions from Broadway and beyond. In addition, it provides a venue for many other live music and dance events.

Yorktown Stage

Yorktown Heights

This theater focuses squarely on crowd-pleasing performances, with touring Broadway-based musicals and many children’s shows. Yorktown Stage also hosts robust educational opportunities for future generations of musical actors.

Rhode Island

Trinity Repertory Company

Providence

Designated as the state theater of Rhode Island, Trinity Rep offers a diverse array of performances to best reflect the character of the communities of the Ocean State. In recent seasons, the theater has focused on offering different perspectives to well-known plays, and staging plays focused on Rhode Islanders. In addition, the theater offers space for Brown University MFA productions, and a summer slate of free, bilingual Spanish and English plays.

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The bitter cold, which is expected to deliver a hard freeze to oil-producing regions of the southwestern United States for the first time since 2022, has boosted crude oil prices amid a surge for home heating oil across the country and in Europe — which is facing a similar chilly forecast. Electricity demand is also expected to increase as millions crank their thermostats to cope. Overall, oil prices ended last week up about $2, and could rise further as temperatures plummet this week.

The rise in crude oil prices could begin to put pressure on the price of gasoline, but a sharp drop in gasoline demand and ballooning inventories are staving off significant hikes in our region — for now. Last week, domestic gasoline demand fell 9% to 8.1 million barrels a day, according to the Energy Information Administration. That’s in line with expectations for the post-holiday period. Meanwhile, domestic inventories grew by 7.7 million barrels, with Northeast supplies accounting for nearly 2 million barrels of the increase.

“If it weren’t for cratering demand and swelling inventories, gasoline prices could be on the upswing thanks to the impacts of severe cold,” said Jillian Young, Director of Public Affairs, AAA Northeast. “Oil and gas markets are watching for potential disruptions to production and supplies in southern areas of the United States unaccustomed to prolonged hard freezes.”

AAA Northeast’s Jan. 6 survey of fuel prices found the current national average up 4 cents from last week ($3.02), averaging $3.06 per gallon. Today’s national average price is 4 cents higher than a month ago ($3.02) and 2 cents lower than this day last year ($3.08).

State	Current Price*	One Week Ago	One Month Ago	One Year Ago
Connecticut	$3.02	$3.02	$3.05	$3.18
Massachusetts	$3.00	$3.02	$3.03	$3.18
New Jersey	$2.97	$2.91	$2.95	$3.08
New York	$3.12	$3.12	$3.15	$3.32
Rhode Island	$2.93	$2.95	$2.96	$3.06

*Prices as of Jan. 6, 2025

Today, Oklahoma and Mississippi have the lowest prices in the nation at $2.55 and $2.60, respectively.Hawaii and California hold the highest prices in the nation this week at $4.54 and $4.38, respectively.

The AAA Gas Prices website is your resource for up-to-date fuel price information. Search for average gas prices by Regular, Plus, Premium and Diesel on national and state levels, as well as metro areas.

With predicted temperatures at or below freezing across much of the Northeast for the coming week and beyond, AAA is encouraging drivers to understand the impact of these extreme conditions on their vehicles — and prepare accordingly.

Freezing temperatures can negatively impact vehicle performance in several ways, including:

• Drained batteries: Vehicle batteries lose 30% of their power when the outside air temperature hits 32 degrees. At 0 degrees, batteries can drain 60% of their cranking power. This is because the cold slows the chemical reaction that creates an electrical charge, which makes starting a vehicle more difficult — especially with batteries that are three to five years old or those that previously went dead and needed a jump-start. If drivers have batteries older than three years or that have been previously jump-started, they should have their battery tested and, if necessary, replaced.
• Decreased tire pressure: Cold also negatively affects tires, which lose about one PSI (pound per square inch) of pressure for every 10 degrees the air temperature drops. Tires also normally lose one PSI per month due to aspiration. Before hitting the road, drivers should make sure tires are properly inflated according to information on the sticker inside the driver’s door jamb.
• Frozen fuel lines: Any moisture in a vehicle’s fuel lines can freeze, preventing gasoline from reaching the engine. Drivers should keep their gas tanks at least half full during the winter so that there will be no room for air or water vapor. If drivers suspect there is water in the fuel tank, they can use a gas line antifreeze.

Extreme winter weather also impacts electric vehicles; the main issue is that cold temperatures may reduce the distance an EV can travel on a full charge. Research by AAA found the average EV’s driving range decreases by 41% when the outside temperature dips to 20 degrees and the car’s heating system is on.

EV drivers can improve their vehicle’s performance in the winter by utilizing the following tips:

• Don’t let the battery charge drop too low: An EV reserves about 15-20% of its charge capacity to heat the battery itself, so it’s critical to be well above that level before hitting the road.
• Use heat efficiently: Warming an EV creates a significant drain on the battery. If the vehicle has heated seats and steering wheels, that functionality offers a more efficient option to provide warmth than heating the entire cabin. Some EVs connect to a smartphone app that allows drivers to warm the vehicle’s cabin to an optimum temperature at a preset time before use, positively affecting range and leading to consistent vehicle performance.
• Park your electric vehicle in a garage, if possible: Garage storage helps to ensure that harsh weather conditions do not affect the vehicle and helps maintain a warmer temperature, which will aid battery performance. And, with zero tailpipe emissions, EVs can be safely warmed up while indoors.
• Plug in when parked for extended time periods: Keeping your vehicle plugged in helps maintain battery health and prevent range loss. This also helps to keep the battery above freezing to help optimize battery performance; this occurs whether the vehicle is actively charging or not.
• Ensure tires are at the proper pressure: Due to their weight, tire pressure is critical to an EV’s handling and performance. Proper tire pressure also helps to maximize range and ensure the correct amount of tire surface grips the road. Overinflated or underinflated tires can lead to range degradation and compromise safety.
• Slow down: Higher speeds can negatively impact range in all types of weather. More power is needed to overcome the increased wind resistance, especially in denser, colder air.
• Know your vehicle: Some EVs have one motor and function as rear-wheel drive. This can lead to handling challenges in slippery conditions. Dual-motor EVs function as all-wheel drive, providing superior traction and performance.

Drivers of all vehicles should always remove snow and ice from their vehicles before driving. This is critical for maximum driver visibility and to prevent blowing snow and ice from possibly blinding other drivers. For EVs, removing snow is important to reduce weight and air resistance while driving, both of which can negatively impact range.

AAA also urges all drivers to keep a cold-weather emergency kit in their vehicles, complete with warm clothing, blankets, extra water and food, extra chargers, an ice scraper and any medications they may need in the event of an emergency.

Every state has its own regulations when it comes to REAL ID requirements. Please be sure to reference DHS.gov/realid for state-specific details. AAA Northeast is providing general information about the REAL ID Act and what to expect.

Since May 7, 2025, airline passengers have been required to show a REAL ID, passport or other accepted form of identification to fly.

The REAL ID Act established new federal minimum-security standards for state-issued driver’s licenses and identification cards. This means that all U.S. air travelers need a REAL ID driver’s license, or other acceptable form of identification, such as a valid passport, passport card, state-issued enhanced driver’s license, DHS trusted traveler cards (Global Entry, NEXUS, SENTRI, FAST) or U.S. military ID. This law also applies to those seeking access to federal buildings or nuclear facilities.

Starting Feb. 1, 2026, airline passengers without a REAL ID will need to pay the Transportation Security Administration (TSA) $45 to verify their identity for travel and access security checkpoints. So, if you haven’t already, now is a great time to apply for your license upgrade at your nearest AAA branch.

AAA members in Connecticut, Massachusetts, Rhode Island and New York can apply at certain local AAA branch offices. Reserve your spot online ahead of time at AAA.com/Reservations.

Getting a REAL ID

Most states use a central issuance method for driver’s licenses and IDs. You apply at the DMV or certain AAA branches and receive a paper temporary document until your plastic credential is mailed to you.

Unfortunately, the TSA does not recognize a temporary paper document as an acceptable form of ID. Normally, you would receive the plastic credential in two weeks. With the increased demand of individuals applying for the REAL ID, it’s likely the delivery of licenses will be delayed. Therefore, if you are traveling and in need of a REAL ID compliant form of ID, you will need to plan for additional time to receive your plastic credential.

In Massachusetts, Rhode Island and New York, DMV/RMV services at AAA branches are free for all AAA members. In Connecticut, AAA members from outside AAA Northeast territory pay $6 for DMV services and non-members pay $8.

There is no additional cost for the REAL ID itself. If not at renewal, only the standard duplicate license fees would apply.

REAL ID Requirements

Simply getting to the REAL ID issuing agency is only half the job; you also have to show up with the proper documents. Here is a rundown of what you’ll need. Requirements vary by state, so please check with your local DMV/RMV.

• Proof of lawful presence/birth. You will also need legal proof of a name change with court documents, if your current name on your driver’s license/state ID does not match your lawful presence/birth document.

• Proof of Social Security number. Your full name and full Social Security number must be shown.

• Proof of residency. This will need to be demonstrated by two items from each state’s checklist.

For a list of documents that apply to each category, follow each state’s DMV REAL ID checklist.

REAL ID Driver’s License Application Challenges

• REAL ID requires in-person physical and electronic verification of all documents.

• Only original, non-laminated, unaltered documents are accepted.

• Documents cannot be issued from a church, hospital or non-city/state/federal agency.

• Inaccurate documents. You will not be successful if you deviate from the state’s DMV REAL ID checklist.

• Name changes. All name changes must be proven with legal documents from birth to current name if a person has had name changes. Therefore, people who have had changes in their name should bring all documents showing the name trail from their lawful presence/birth document to their current name on their driver’s license/state ID. These documents must be issued by a city or state. Church marriage certificates cannot be used.

• All of the above have led to longer wait times at AAA branches and the DMV/RMV.

Best Practices and Considerations

• Be prepared. Obtain the state issued checklist prior to your appointment and adhere to it. Just because a church-issued marriage license, laminated Social Security card or a photocopy of a birth certificate was used at the DMV/RMV prior, it will not be accepted now due to new federal rules.

• A valid passport can be used for lawful presence document and in most cases for a female, most likely will match their driver’s license/state ID name. If this is true, no name change documents need be presented. Please note an expired passport, even by one day cannot be used for this requirement.

• If you have had multiple name changes and you are not using a valid passport:  Bring original documentation for ALL name changes from birth to the current name.

• If the Social Security card has been laminated or altered in any way, bring another document from the list or apply for a new card (It will take approximately 14 days for it to arrive). Note: Rhode Island does accept a laminated, but otherwise unaltered, Social Security card. Massachusetts and other states do not.

• All Social Security documentation must show the person’s full name and full Social Security number from the state checklist.

• Birth certificates must be original and issued by a city, town or state. No hospital or church birth certificates can be accepted. Certified copies and/or birth abstracts may be acceptable, but are subject to additional screening and verification processes. The rules vary by state. To be safe, go back to the agency that issued the birth certificate and request a new un-laminated one.

• There are other forms of ID that will be accepted for the REAL ID requirement to board an aircraft within the U.S., enter a nuclear facility and to enter certain federal buildings. These include:

U.S. passport

U.S. passport card

DHS trusted traveler cards (Global Entry, NEXUS, SENTRI, FAST)

U.S. Department of Defense ID, including IDs issued to dependents

Permanent resident card

Border crossing card

State-issued Enhanced Driver’s License

Federally recognized, tribal-issued photo ID

If you do not fly within the U.S., enter nuclear facilities or access federal buildings you may not need a REAL ID or other acceptable ID.

Read more about REAL ID.

Information subject to change without notice. Refer to State REAL ID websites for the most up-to-date information.

This article has been updated and republished from a previous version.

Getting into a car crash is overwhelming. On top of damage to your car, you may have injuries or worry about the cost of repairs. Whether you experience a major crash or a minor fender bender, the process of filing an insurance claim can be stressful. Prepare yourself by becoming familiar with the basic steps of how to file auto insurance claims.

How to File an Auto Insurance Claim

Contact the Police Immediately

Despite our best defensive driving efforts, most of us experience a crash at some point during our lives. Perhaps someone backed into your car in a parking lot or ignored a traffic signal. Regardless of the cause of the crash, here are a few tips on what you should do immediately after.

In addition to making sure everyone is safe, taking photos of damages and contacting AAA Roadside Assistance if needed, it is important to call the police right away so that injuries can be addressed and the event can be documented properly. The officer who arrives at the scene will record many of the facts that you will need for your insurance claim to be complete. These include where and when the crash took place, identifying information for the parties involved, insurance information and a description of what occurred.

Click here to learn what to do if you’ve be in a hit-and-run.

Inform Your Insurance Carrier

While the police report of your crash will not be available immediately, contact your insurance company right away. Whether you file your claim by phone, online or app, you should have your policy information on hand. During the initial filing, be prepared to provide your insurance policy number, driver’s license number and other identifying information.

A representative can explain the claims process and walk you through a series of questions regarding your crash. You will be asked to provide details of the incident as well as the date, time, parties involved and any injuries you incurred. The insurance company will request a copy of the police report when it is available as this will aid in the investigation.

In addition to taking an account of the crash, the representative will schedule a time for your vehicle to be inspected. An adjuster will come to the location of your car to write up an estimate for the necessary repairs.

Ask Questions About Coverage and Deductibles

Do you recall the details of your auto insurance coverage? Most of us pay our premiums but don’t think much about our policy until we get into a crash. Make sure to ask your insurance agent about your deductible so that you can plan financially for car repairs. Your deductible is the amount that you will owe before insurance covers the remainder. For instance, a $500 deductible means that you will owe $500 regardless of the total amount of repair needed for your car. If the other driver’s insurance company ultimately accepts fault for the crash, your deductible eventually will be returned to you.

In cases where the damage to your car is so great that it cannot be driven, you will need a rental car. Even if your vehicle incurs less damage, you will need one for the time it is at the body shop. Ask about your rental car coverage so that you stay within the limits of your policy and minimize additional cost. AAA members get exclusive savings on Hertz rentals.

Be Patient During the Claim Investigation

Once a car crash is reported, your insurance carrier will investigate to determine the nature of the crash and the severity of any damage to the individuals and vehicles involved. If there are differences between what you and the other party have reported, you may receive a call from the insurance company of the other driver. It can be stressful to recount the details of a crash repeatedly, so make sure to remain patient and calm so that you can accurately describe exactly what took place.

Track Your Insurance Claim Regularly

One of the most stressful parts of filing an auto insurance claim is waiting for it to be settled. Even the nicest rental car is no substitute for the comfort of your vehicle. Keep track of the progress on your claim, and stay in touch with those who are responsible for managing repairs. You will be back on the road in your own car faster if you answer questions promptly and remain active throughout the process.

Take Care of Your Injuries

In the aftermath of a crash, we often think about costly car repairs, but tending to injuries should be at the top of our to-do list. Keep up with appointments such as physical therapy, rest when advised and listen to your doctors. If any changes in your medical care are recommended, communicate these with your insurance carrier as well.

While safe driving can reduce the chance of a car crash, most of us will experience one at some point in our lives. Review your policy periodically, and keep these steps in mind so that filing an auto insurance claim can be as smooth as possible.

Still have questions about car insurance and how to file a claim? Contact a AAA insurance agent.

This article has been updated and republished from a previous version.